General Transgender Discussion

I have a new man in my life and it is going good.I consider myself as bisexual although I have my GF Stephanie.His name is Blake and he likes transgendered women and we started dating 3 weeks ago.Stephanie has been great about it and we talked about it first.Blake has been so great to me so far and knows I am going through the whole thing including SRS.Met his family on Saturday,has a great family that has let me in open arms.His family knows I am trans going through the transition becoming the woman I see myself as.

OK, I feel I have to clear the air, there seams to be a mis conception about the difference between life pre op and post op, the words oh it will all be better once that is gone, my cloths will fit I will be more comfortable more confident in my self. Bull, if your self confident then your that way pre just as much as post operations, if your a basket case emotionally before your going to be even more so after words. I am so sick of all these individuals who tie up their crap lives with being Trans anything or that's why they are so unhappy because they have this darn issue that no one understands, how can the rest of the world understand if nothing changes post op all …

In another thread (or two...) we've talked about brain researchers looking for differences that would help indicate or perhaps objectively diagnose/confirm one's being transgender. This (below) is a little dated (July 1, 2016) but provides some information I found very interesting and informative: Why Are Some People Transgender?

I'm not sure where in actually terminology I'd fall and I've searched everywhere but nobody has been able to relate, I just feel isolated and I don't know what to do. The only people I've seen feel similarly are trans women and amab nonbinary people and I don't want to seem like a jerk who's just talking over them. I'm afab, but my parents raised me as a boy and I guess now that I've been forced to stop identifying with masculinity I don't feel like anything, but I'm not sure how to go about leading a life when I'm so different from my trans man and nonbinary afab friends who feel afraid because I have "man behavior". I feel like I have to shut up and minimize mysel…

"Words build thoughts and thoughts create actions. Thus, every word helps lay the foundation for empowered trans people and trans equality worldwide." Read: What Not To Say When Discussing Transgender People See the poster: Words that are Transphobic and Why What could you add to this list?

A question. Should sex after the SRS operation be a factor in a decision weather to change sex, amongst all the other aspects of wanting to change? The reason I ask this is because when I have looked on the internet about transsexualism some websites say that this should not be a reason in a decision to go forward for the change. But I feel this is actually an important question amongst all the other reasons for wanting to change. As some sites say that if you are wanting sexual intercourse after the op it is one important topic to bring up with the surgeon, and some sites say not to say anything like this to the therapist. I see that this is important and t…

I guess you know that it is time to give up on a relationship, when you spend your last cent to send someone you care about, and you think cares about you, a birthday present, and you get no thank you....no response at all. Yea, been kidding myself for too long.

Just a lightweight blab to say how much I dread wrestling with earrings every day. Short stem, long stem, danglers- you name the type, and I've had my butt kicked by a set. Argh.

Within what I'm going to write I will name no names. I'm really bad at names anyway so the chance I would remember the names correctly are slim to none, lol. This however is a serious subject I hope people will read. A dear friend of mine told me this evening that a person in the complex in which I live said she would never let her children near me because I'm transgender. This without my knowledge at the time but she wasn't going to allow her children to come to my haunted house. Again I don't know who this person is, it turned out she came with her children to my haunted house. Now two things are teaching moments here. One, parents understand I totally respect your want…

My wife and I found a great support group lately and say it has help us out more.For me,it has shown me that my wife loves me for who I am.My wife,I have shown her I am still the same person since I came out as bigender 5 years ago.It is for wives and girlfriends of transgender and crossdressing husbands.Good thing is the spouse can go as well.I have met new friends as well,met another husband like me there whom just came out a month ago as bigender.I have helped him out in his starting more,one is advice from me.My wife even opened up to me during the last session,said she wants to see me dressed as Kelsey more.I took it well.Way before I came out,there were times she ha…

Hi Everyone, I'm new here. Kinda feeling this out. Uhmmm.... I have been in transition for 9 years, primarily on hormone treatment. Estrogen, Spiro's alone. I am also living with a chronic illness that most would scoff at if I as to share what it is. But other than that, my conundrum is about after this life is over. I was orphan till the age of 10, then adopted by a woman, a teacher and a devout catholic. Since a teeanger, I fought the urges of desiring another male. Though before my adoption, at 3yrs old I was molested by a cousin on my mother side of the family. Till I was in my 20's and in college. I was bullied in my earlier years of high school, and made gay friends…

Hi girls, I’m wondering what’s the difference if one was just to take estrogen vs if they just took t-blockers vs taking both? since I’m going to Japan it seems the doctors there are wary of T-blockers because of some side-effects that may happen. But should I push for it? Of course I’ll get my blood checked first, but I really really don’t want to become more masculine. The doctor claimed the estrogen would block testosterone anyway. Usually when you take estrogen do they give you progesterone too? If so I forgot what progesterone does(dang it memories of sophmore year of high school has failed me). If I were to only take estrogen with no t-blockers…

So I am not looking to discriminate against anyone. If anything I want to be a help. The obstacle that I face is not understanding people that question if they are trans or not. Or people, later in life, questioning their gender. I know for myself it is because I am an old fart. And for myself, it is because I have known since I was 4 years old. I do believe there is a generational gap in what it means to be trans today vs. 10 - 20 - years ago. I know I was 43 years old before I even knew that I could transition. That such a thing existed. And I jumped on it. And have no regrets. So, I'm not sure if my not understanding is because trans issues have become more…

As a Transgender person my Gender identity is female, my physical body is male. For me this does not feel like a disorder or illness. It feels like a natural occurrence, part of the spectrum of the human experience that has occurred over millennium. It is said that change is the only constant in the universe, then transition is a universal characteristic that society would do better to embrace than shun. Although I experience Gender discomfort with varying degrees of disphoria sometimes very intense, what makes it so much harder is the ridged gender binary model I have been conditioned to conform too. If I openly defy this model I become vunrable to Hate speech, Ha…

So, as ive said in another post I'm moving in a few days. I haven't told my father because I plan on doing it while he's in church, because of the reason **why** I'm moving (transition related.) So, I've written like 5 or 6 different (long) heartfelt letters to him, telling him that I'm trans and that I had planned to start hrt in less than a year. But slowly the letters have been changing... A few days ago I went out with a few friends and they were asking me about how my father would take the news. I told them its pretty likely that he'll completely reject me, and I started crying. I stopped skating and sat on a curb and just tucked my head into my knees and cried for a…

I’m going to make this as short and sweet as I can. Is anyone else afraid for their lives or the lives of those they love? In today’s political climate, things have gotten so out of control that I’m worried about what I, or more importantly Adrianne could face when we’re out. I can handle myself well, and travel armed. Adrianne doesn’t arm herself in any way. But transgender people, and those who support them, are under fire today. I’m not so much worried about myself. If something happens to me, it happens. If something happens to Adrianne, the world be set ablaze. I would never forgive myself if anything happened to her. I can’t lock her up or anything like that. I…

Thought this would be a neat thread, that could be potentially informative. I want you girls and guys to post stuff concerning potential scams or misinformation that appears as if it’s supposed to help us but in reality is a sham. I can think one such example are people on YouTube posting endless “this hypnosis will make you transition through subliminal blah blah blah” videos, often adding in their descriptions “subscribe to activate the magic” lol. But in all seriousness these things are kind of scummy as I think their reasoning is to make many very desperate trans people hope for some truth in these videos and give them ad revenue. I could give a beni…

I know this issue has been brought up here from time to time. In my 13 years of transitioning I have always dated transwomen. It always ends up the same way. My being told I am to masculine, and can we still be friends? The last transwomen I was in relationship with was long distance. I always called, sent her flowers and took the 500 mile ride to see her when I could. But it wasn't enough . I have looked at the trans dating sites out there and they really turn me off. Al this sexuality stuff. Is there any place to find real people?

http://www.transtherapist.com/children-in-transition/what-to-look-for-in-a-therapist

Someplace here I indicated this movie was coming out soon and just had a chance to see it in the theaters. I was rather surprised that the theater was full and had not expected this. Synopsis: Well done but will warn anyone on HRT for any length of time will need to bring tissues to wipe away the tears. I wrote a blog entry on WordPress on it. The entry starts off with my thoughts that lead up to what happens in the movie and how I felt coming out of the theater. If you plan on seeing the movie don't read this entry else it will give away things that are important to see rather than hear from me. Amazon has the book and would urge you to read it. Suffice to say I was touc…

Well, recently I've been really feeling as if I belong as a boy. The thing is, I was extremely girly as a child. I am going to 7th grade currently, the hesitation in gender roles, and just being a girl started around 4th grade. That wasn't much though, I just started fearing wearing skirts. Actually, no, it was when puberty started for me. When my balls that were misplaced onto my chest started growing. (my way of saying it reduces frustration) My mom says that she just thinks its a hormonal imbalance because of that, and this is probably a phase. The thought of dressing as a girl, and everything as a GIRL not only scares me, but makes me angry, upset, and want to…

Hey everyone! So, Who here has had to feel the pain of being fired back into the closet.... Coming out for me was extremely hard because I did it on more then one occasion.. The First time, I simply just told my parents I was a lesbian, not an issue to my bio-mom. She already knew. By dad refused to talk to me for a few weeks until my mom Overdosed and I had to live with my dad. Then, there was a whole new problem-- My step mother who is a religious zealot. at the time, I was still figuring myself out, I never knew was transgender was until meeting a girl my sophomore year who was the nicest person I've ever met and she was trans. She helped me sort of figure mysel…

just sent my oldest son a letter on his facebook inbox of me coming out to him. im so scared because for the last 15 years of his life i was shoved out of his life by his grandfolks because they didnt like me dating their daughter back then. and now i feel like what i done has become selfish of me and my transgender life is a curse. im almost crying right now and im so hurt cause now i may never be able to speak to him again as he probably will hate me for being suck a freak. sometime i wonder if being transgender is really worth it cause now im losing the one thing in my life ive been trying to get back in my life. his mother knows of me being trans and is nothing but su…

For the >5 decades of my life before I came to an understanding that I'm transgender and that's okay I assumed that any small steps toward transition would be a slippery slope for me down Alice's rabbit hole. I was scared that I would find the euphoria impossible to resist, that transitioning would be like a rampant opioid addiction. I thus kicked the can down the road for many years while fighting depression and general mental malaise. I started transitioning two years ago with coming out to a small group of family and friends. Through 2017 I took more small steps with much reluctance and trepidation: buying more clothing, getting my ears pierced, starting work …

i have decided that i am going to give up on my transition as i no longer support the very community that time and time again have shunned me and not helped in my goal to womanhood. for the past 7 years i have went through literal heck, clawed and scratched to try to transition and no one seems to bother in helping nor cares i am even around. not to mention...i get critized, made fun of within my own community because i am having to present male until i get settled in my next place, if i ever do have one...knowing me ill live homeless the rest of my boring life....im so tired of being bashed within this community and looked down upon as gutter trash because i happen to be…