General Transgender Discussion

I am a twenty-six year old transsexual male and as long as I can remember it has been an issue I've had to contend with. I sought guidance as a teenager with little to no avail and have tried to manage these emotions on my own but that has become increasingly more difficult as time wanes. I have no resources or advisers on the subject and don't want to do anything rash that might jeopardize my health or sanity. I am uninsured and was wondering if there were organizations or outreach programs that might help me find a professional I could consult with. Baring in mind I have very little income. This isn't a matter my family would embrace let alone accept so there's no h…

While I didn't achieve some of my goals that were set, two events took place in my life. In June, I migrated closer to the transsexual spectrum. It was very subtle change but I view myself more as a transsexual. I dress at least half the time in women's clothing. Some day it will be full time. The second event was when I met with my veterans group in September. I usually come dressed as a male. The leader of the group asked why I didn't come dressed as Gennee? I had thought about it prior to the meeting. Ever since that day, I have gone dressed as Gennee. I also attended two wakes dressed. No one paid attention. My desire to live full time as a woman is growing. …

Another step towards becoming the woman I should have been all along. I am going to start seeing a therapist in the next week or so. This is so I can eventually get my letter for SRS. Bobbie Jo

Hi Everyone, Has anyone bought or used a home laser hair removal device such as TRIA or Rio Scanning both sold on Ebay? I would like to hear your opinion about. thank you!

I was wondering if someone could help me get started. I would like to have top surgery but dont know where to start. I dont consider myself transgendered but i also dont consider my self male or female. I was born female and would like to have top surgery but i dont want to go any further than that. I live in the san fransisco bay area and dont know what surgeons to talk to, if i have to go through years of therapy before i will be allowed to have surgery. please give me any info you may have. :blink:

This is a very important isuue for me and probably for alot of us ts girls. I would like to hear about personal experiences for post op girls and sex. I have not had any sexual experiences with men. This may sound silly but I am holding out until I get srs. I don't want sex to be the overriding factor in my reason for transitioning. I know if I were to start having sex with men it would preoccupy my mind so much I might become promiscuous and wish for transition to happen faster. Sex as a woman with men will be very importatnt. I do crave being with men but as I said it will only compound the problem. I am a hetero woman but I don't want it to push my desire to live as…

I listened to a program on the internet talking about the popularity of Sarah Palin. When the people who like were asked what she stands for, the respondents were vague in their answers. When asked about what Palin would do on policies such as foreign policy, the respondents didn't have a clue. It's really sad that these people judged their love of Palin on peripheral qualities rather anything concrete or tangible. This parallels what most people understand about ENDA, gay marriage, and transgender identity. Political correctness is the rule of the day rather than critical thinking. What concerns me is that if, for example, the country was taken over by some power that…

When I look back at all the decisions I've made in my 42 years on this planet I have rarely made any of them on my own behalf. Where I live,what I wear,how I act,where I work. All of these important things were always made to satisfy and fill the needs of other people. Now I have the most important decision in my life to make. The key words being my life. How much of life belongs to me and how much belongs to my wife and kids? I have had to deal with this longer than I've been married and been a dad and most of it alone. My wife has known for just over a year and a few friends too. My friends are lesbians and have been really supportive. My wife has been quiet and pass…

I hope you have a great one!!! ~Shannon

Hello all, I've been depressed my whole life and just recently realized that this is because I've been confused about my gender this whole time. I really want to start taking hormones as soon as possible so that my body can begin its adjustment. The problem is that my doctor refused to prescribe them to me because of my psychiatric history. Is this illegal / prejudiced? Should I contact the ACLU? Please someone, I need advice! Erin

I know I find the term Genital Reconstuction Surgery the best one, because to me it is the most accurate. That's what the operation does, it reconstructs your genitals. I don't like the term "sex change operation" because I feel it's almost the transphobic title that it's been given and we're not changing our sex, we have always been girls, now we're just matching our body to our mind. Sex reassignment surgery I don't really have a problem with.

So, quick post. I upgraded to HD cable a few month ago, and, cdue to such, got a whole crap ton of new and weird/different channels Id never seen before. One of these is 'Logo,' the glbt channel. Or should I say G channel. Now, not being xenophobic here, or bigoted, but I honestly could care less for gay themed movies or shows. Personally, it focuses WAY too much on the sexuality of the roles and in turn, lacks actual substance (for example, you dont see hit straight TV shows constantly insisting and blabbing about how AWESOME and GREAT it is to be straight.) So, to be quite honest, I've no desire to watch this channel. I watch shows with substance, not an agenda. …

This is the title of an article currently at "The New York Times" website.

November and December are traditionally active months for me. While there are activities to attend, it also a time of reflection. This year is different because of the changes that have happened to me personally. I will be marching in the Veterans Day parade on November 11th. It will be my third time doing so. It's important that transgender veterans are honored and remembered for their service. This year the group may have a float. November 20th will be the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I make it a point to attend because it's important that we encourage and support one another. I am considering speaking at the event. I mentioned months earlier that I have transi…

Well, this Saturday I start undergoing laser hair removal treatments on my private area in preparation for future SRS. Little did I know when I started down this road in 2007 where I would end up. I am proud to say that I couldn't be happier. I should have been born a girl, and I certainly shouldn't have waited this long to fulfill my destiny. However, after 49 years on this planet, I finally started living my life as the gender I should have been born in all along. The last 2 years of my life have been sbsolutely wonderful, and I wouldn't trade it for the world, even though I did become unemployed for a time along the way, and my ex took my daughter away from me.…

Okay, I must be extra brunette today or something , I've read the instructions, but still not sure what I need to do to start my own blog. I go to my control panel, and I see the blog, but it says no entries, where/how do I post a new entry? Anyway, my latest update is that I posted two new pics in my gallery on this site, and also that I have just received a great job offer as team lead/senior consultant for a Fortune 100 company. I will be moving to Columbus, Ohio next Thursday the 29th. Bobbie Jo

Hey everyone! Soooo I don't post here as often as usual recently, as I have been quite busy with getting all the final steps of my transition in order. I am happy to say that this month of October has been quite possibly the best month *ever*. Despite some recent heartaches, bad breaks with being stolen and robbed from, and being discriminated at a particular job, I am happy to say, life in stealth is now a complete reality. Now, I have been going by Ashlee here for a number of years, due to the fact that I chose that name as it was the name my parents had planned for me during the pregnancy with me since I was assumed by doctors and all others to be born a gene…

I must have pissed off someone evidently. I looked at my profile, and it says my: Reputation is -1, Poor okay, well whoever I ticked off, sorry, didn't mean to. I apologize. Bobbie Jo

Anybody have fun Halloween plans? I'm going out with a group of friends. I'll be The Joker from Dark Knight. I will be applying theatrical makeup and latex scars and I have the costume all ready to go. It should be a fun party.

A couple of opportunities have come to share my experience of being transgender. My waiting for one party to reply to me because of some details to be ironed out. A grad student wishes to inteview me. The other opportunity is on a lesbian website. I met the person who runs the site and she would love for me to share my experience. This is something that I have a desire to do. Gennee :)

Hi all! , My name is Lauren and I am brand new here. I am 36 from Alabama I am married my wife is unaccpting to me being TG.I also have 2 children. I am here to learn and make friends. I have been on hormones for a year now. Nice to meet you all! Bye Ya'll, Lauren

I know it's a long shot, but I figured that any shot not taken is a guarenteed miss. I have recently been denied a job by a company. During my interviews, they *loved* my background, my interview went amazingly well, and in the final interview, they had employment pamphlets and folders out for what I assumed to be a job offer. At the end of the interview, they mentioned that they just were doing background checks for everyone they hire, and asked me if this were an issue. Because PA took 9 months to change my name, at that point, I had not had it legally changed, I mentioned that I was indeed transgendered and my background check would need to be run under my birt…

Hello everyone, I'm new this site and have a question that I hope someonecan answer for me, I have yet to even get a response. My question is this, when breasts begin to grow, does the pec muscle start to deconstruct? I have a void behind my nipple that used to be muscle, the void has filled with buds. I might have wrongly assumed that I would be able to control some of my breasts jiggle because the fat had built up around my pec. But now, the void in the pec muscle is MUCH larger (less muscle), and it continues to fill with buds. Will the pec muscle go away completly, leaving me with just fat and tissue? Any advice would be great.

I wrote about a year and a half ago about having painful cramps in my leg one night, wondering afterward if taking estrogen or spironolactone may have caused the cramps. I contacted the physician who has and is prescribing female hormones, spironlactone and finasteride for me to ask him if taking any of them could cause leg cramps. He said probably not and suggested I take a magnesium supplement, which I have been, later discovering magnesium supplements are worthwhile for several reasons in helping to promote proper health. Later I realized I had had the painful leg cramps only about a day after returning home on a long plane ride. I know people need to be careful on …

Hello evryone , I wanted to say hello and introduce myself. I am a 48 year old MTF woman on the road to transition . I am married to an incredible woman and have 5 children , my wife is the primary focus in my life. I look forward to meeting you all but I plead for patience as I am a frieght relocation systems engineer and I am away from home for long periods of time with no internet access.I hope that in some way I may enrich your ives as I hope you shall enrich mine. Hugs to all Viccy