General Transgender Discussion

Hi everyone I’m Jamie, I’m in a weird situation where I’m planning to move and work to Japan from China(I used to live in the US) and also I’d like to begin my transition from male to female while there. In order not to derail my “coming out to my spouse” thread too much I made this one. I would like to know any resources or information of mtf life in Japan. Or your experiences while there. Firstly I’d like to recommend this source to anyone asking similar questions https://stonewalljapan.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/transguide2016.pdf this seemed both helpful and a bit depressing. I’ll be working in a small(?) city called Mito and I don’t know if…

In need to ask if I change my name and gender with SSA will that help me to get my health insurance approved for surgeries and surgeons will take me more serious? I legally Change name and gender last year with birth certificate and driver license. I need advice cause my psychiatrist said to wait and I ask my psychiatrist wait till I get breast augmentation surgery and Dr. said yes. When I started to do research on what is the right way to transitioning and everyone say it’s different with everyone. I wanted to hold on SSA to change name once I get one of my MTF transgender surgery.

For the >5 decades of my life before I came to an understanding that I'm transgender and that's okay I assumed that any small steps toward transition would be a slippery slope for me down Alice's rabbit hole. I was scared that I would find the euphoria impossible to resist, that transitioning would be like a rampant opioid addiction. I thus kicked the can down the road for many years while fighting depression and general mental malaise. I started transitioning two years ago with coming out to a small group of family and friends. Through 2017 I took more small steps with much reluctance and trepidation: buying more clothing, getting my ears pierced, starting work …

Coming out is tough, scary, and impacts everyone in our lives. There's no uncertainty about that. But it's part of many of our lives. Here is something I just came across that speaks to me: An important reminder that YOU are important too. Here's what our posters are feeling: 1. I screwed up everyone by coming out. 2. My former partner is feeling hurt/betrayed by my coming out. 3. My children are hurt/angry/permanently damaged by my coming out. 4. Everything is my fault because nothing will ever be the same again and I caused all of these changes. So...here we are. All wound up in our guilt. The world's problems...or so it feels...on our shoulders. …

What the hell is it with forums in our community? They are all so damn clicky that anyone who comes in and posts a slightly different opinion (which I thought was the point) is automatically denied from becoming part of the "good ol boys club" and the forum turns on them. And regular members decide they're the mods and police the board taking the job away from the mods. I've been posting on another forum, but it's becoming painfully clear that I'm a worthless *expletives deleted* because I'm not a clone of everyone else there. There's a regular there that can't take criticism. When told to get off his high horse and drop his holier-than-thou attitude he loses it. Then he …

My wife and I found a great support group lately and say it has help us out more.For me,it has shown me that my wife loves me for who I am.My wife,I have shown her I am still the same person since I came out as bigender 5 years ago.It is for wives and girlfriends of transgender and crossdressing husbands.Good thing is the spouse can go as well.I have met new friends as well,met another husband like me there whom just came out a month ago as bigender.I have helped him out in his starting more,one is advice from me.My wife even opened up to me during the last session,said she wants to see me dressed as Kelsey more.I took it well.Way before I came out,there were times she ha…

I have the sexual orientation of a typical guy, the body of a typical guy, and am pretty much content with (or at least not opposed to) having the body of a guy. I have also never experienced any gender dysphoria before. However, I'm currently questioning whether I have the "mind" of a girl. I want to know: is it possible for me to have the "mind" of a girl despite this? Is that a thing? Every time I try to find the answer to this I always get things that don't say anything about this type of transgender, and instead basically assume everyone whose transgender is also looking to change their bodies in some way. There is never any mention of someone who is transgender who …

My kids have adjusted very well since I came out as bigender 5 years ago.It was tough at first and I was amazed it took them a month to adjust.I had the talk with them on this,they were 13,11 and 9 years old at the time.They now understand now with them being 18,16 and 14 years old now seeing I am any normal dad with a female counterpart that wants out.Also learned I struggled for a long time finding who I really was and they learned something too.It was seeing who they were from the inside too,My 16 year old and 14 year old were first and it was my oldest.My oldest had interest in wearing certain female clothing as male when he was 15 and I helped him through this.He now…

People born with gender dysphoria have a physical difference between the sex of their brain and their natal sex so with this knowledge why are gender dysphoric people not classed as intersex when it is a scientific fact.

I have a burning question that desperately needs answers. When exactly, did the word "transgender" translate to "sex toy"? Apparently I didn't get the memo when it happened. I have an ad on Craigslist looking to find a gaming buddy. Just someone to hang out with once or twice a week and spend a day gaming on the old cartridge systems. I added a few things in ad that people needed to know before responding. Such as my pets, my disability, and that I'm transgender. Since there's rampant bigotry against us. I got a response from a girl who was interested. She seems pretty cool. And I've gotten at least 30 responses from men who have let me know that I can give th…

I have been happy ever since I came out as bigender 5 years ago.For a long time,I struggled to find who I was and thought I was a crossdresser at first.Crossdressed and knew I was not this.In 2012,I started my research and knew I was happy as male still.It was finally in 2013,I finally found it and it was when looking up bigender.I knew it was this,male with a female counterpart having the urges to dress as the female counterpart.It was finally in March of 2013 I came out to my family including my wife Heather.It was at my parent's place and I told my parents I needed to come out about something and they said Ok.My mom knew I always was struggling in my life about somethi…

As always, we are looking for Transgender hangout places, trying to find a place Nikki can go out, relax, maybe make some irl friends like him. We're in a reasonable distance to Dayton, which is the biggest city near us and more likely to have things than our tiny new town.

I've had several meetings over the past couple of months with a man who is providing me with some professional services. Before our first meeting I told him via email that I am a transgender woman. If that made him uncomfortable then that was fine and in which case I asked that he refer me to another colleague. We talked about it on the phone: he's a fundamental Christian and although he has a lot of experience with gay colleagues and customers he'd never encountered a trans person. If I was game to help educate him he was very interested in learning. Since then we've met a couple of times including yesterday. In the course of our conversation I mentioned that I'm sc…

I have been in such a low place lately. My depression meds don't seem to be working. I haven't even wanted to shave my chest or armpits or legs. Which I normally do. I have been called out before on pieces of clothes I wear. But that does not really bother me. What bothers me the most is the looks people who don't understand give me. When someone makes a comment of look at that guy he has boobs. Or is he wearing women's pants? What does he think he is. Well and a lot of those comments are made by people I deal with daily. I use the bathroom in the front of my work so nobody will walk in and see my panties that I wear daily. In fear of being a victim of a hate crime. Its s…

Is anyone aware of any RV or mobile home parks that are LGTB-friendly in Florida or elsewhere for that matter? Thanks.

Hi, New to this forum. I am a 25 year old trans man, started testosterone last year and I am doing good as of now. I have decided to take the next step and undergo top surgery procedure. I would like to know if anyone here has undergone this procedure. If so, please share your experience with me. I am super tensed about the whole thing, but excited as well. I am not sure how to prepare for this and how long I’ll have to get rest. How long will I take to recover fully from the procedure and when can I get back to normal life? I really don't know how the whole thing is going to be, so very nervous about it, at the same time, I feel elated as well. …

Hi guys. I’ve just joined here. I think I may be trans. I was born female. But I don’t feel like I am. I’ve came out to a few friends etc and started dressing more like how I feel on the inside. But then I started dressing back to the way I use to. Thing is. I’m 31 almost 32. And I don’t know I feel like I’m too old to transition. And plus I have two children and I’m terrified how it’ll affect them. Plus I know my ex will go mental if he found out. As he was very abusive towards me to begin with in our relationship so god knows how he’d react to this. My family would disown me. I’m just absolutely terrified. Anyone else on here was or is in the same position I am now? I’d…

Trans parents: 'Don't allow being transgender to scare you from creating a family' Read the article: https://www.gaystarnews.com/article/trans-parents-dont-allow-being-transgender-to-scare-you-from-creating-a-family/

Misgendering happens, whether you’re a trans man, trans woman, non-binary... especially if you’re not cis. What to do? I’ve talked about this several times over the months I’ve been seeing Sandy Hirsch, my voice therapist and coach. As a cis woman who’s very supportive and experienced with many transgender clients, she’s an excellent resource to discuss issues like these. Early on - when I was still pretty on edge - I told her that I’d be a little righteously indignant to someone who misgendered me. Like “Do I look like a man to you?” She worried that this would trigger defensiveness and perhaps anger or worse. So I just let being misgendered go. Better to be safe than so…

I am wondering if coming out to my family can help me let go of the anger I have I have tried to be me so many times and couldn't my mind wants to blame my family but my heart knows my fear and self hate is why I hid myself

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Still kicking ladies and gents , transition going smoothly , family still a bucket of hate an contempt was it trans out ......if I or thy visit I must look like a guy smfh , ole lady thinks I am punishing her wants nothing to do with me now all she does is yell she is now on they way out the door , school is still going good , an off to Jamaica for a week I am the maid of honor

How one transgender teacher came out to his students http://kuow.org/post/how-one-transgender-teacher-came-out-his-students