Male to Female (MtF) Transsexual Discussion

I'm now in a multiple electrolysis per week phase trying to clean off what was left by the laser (for some reason it just didn't do as much for me as it should have, and this was the same people who were helping others on the site who got much better results.. *shrug*). More exciting than that, I visited a doctor today for HRT consultation for the first time. We went through a bunch of basic health questions and family history. I had some mixed feelings coming away from there ... apparently I have some things that will not prevent me from doing HRT, but may very well force me to take extra drugs and use estrogen shots instead of any of the other methods (bleh ..... *shive…

I posted a much longer chunk over at Beginning Life, but I wanted to tell you too: On Feb 17, my wife told her parents about the situation. On Feb 23, I told my sister. On Sunday, I'm driving down to tell my parents. No idea how that will go. My mother is fragile and religious, my father is back to his old drinking game again. I had to decide that I had to have no expectations for them. Regardless of their reaction, I'm okay and can take care of myself. They're free to respond however they wish. My in-laws have not talked to me yet. Mostly, they're not sure of what to say or how to process it, and I didn't want to intrude. My MIL is religious and thinks it…

The US FDA recently approved a new in home laser hair removal system called the TRIA. I understand after watching it demo'd by a local cosmetic surgeon that though it is kinda pricey, it does work just like the real deal. If anything it might make shaving a thing of the past! Quote from a consumers report website "Although no in-clinic professional, or at-home laser hair removal device can currently claim permanent hair removal, permanent hair reduction is achievable using this device." Caveat - it only works on dark hairs - semi-light brown to black. People of dark complexion it is not recommended for. If however you are light skinned and have dark hair - this ma…

This is a subject I don't really hear a lot of people touch on; there seems to be a lot of hand waving involved. Maybe that's all it is, really, people flying under the radar and hoping nothing bad happens. I've asked my therapist about this but he doesn't have a lot of reassuring answers. But I'm curious how non-op TS people deal with day to day legal issues. Like, let's say you look totally passable, everyone calls you "ma'am" or "sir" (as appropriate), you maybe even changed your name or perhaps even are able to go as far as changing your drivers' license to have the right gender. But most places in this country, at least, until you've had bottom surgery they will r…

After my last post, and reading all the advice i got (which was pretty much everyone telling me to see a therapist) i've got an appointment with my GP tomorrow. I'm a nervous wreck and can't get it out of my head, but looking forward to it at the same time. If all goes well my GP will be able to set me up with a therapist, and i can start to work through some off this mess (my life). Ha, i'm sitting here in my room listening to the calming sound of the beatles. I've always had some musical talent but with the state my heads been in over the last few years i stopped playing my guitar/trumpet etc. This is one of the few occasions for a long time where im actually looking…

Ok I know this may sound odd but I don't know wheather to get excited or go to the doctor. I have been taking climara (patches) for 3.5 months now and the other day when I went to shower OMG my breast area was red (the shape of a female breast). The next day it was nearly gone but a day or so later and now my nipples are getting tough and more sensative if that makes ant sense. and the nipple area tingles a bit at times. So my question is should I jump for joy or rush out to find an endochinologist ? Any thoughts here would be appreciated . Thanks ladies.

I am currently 20 and plan to go on hormones before or by my 21st birthday. I know the earlier the better for HRT in terms of passibility and overall effects. I was wondering if anyone could tell me 1. at the age of 21 would hormones have a very positive effect? 2. What are the early effects and when would i expect to start feeling/seeing them? 3. From any experience, i know i wont look 100% like a girl, but assuming my body excepts hormones well at this age how well will it effect my passibilty/look of femininity? 4. How long does it take for your body to over come the "T" and really become accustom to the estrogen? 5. What effect/what will happen to eja…

Hi, First off ill give a little background on myself. I'm 20 years old and currently living as a male. I have been seeing a therapist for about 2 months now who specializes in trans issues. I have recently went to a few support groups dressed as Briana, and found it opened doors in my mind. I found that more and more i want to start my transition.(the younger the better right?) These groups dont only allow me to go out dressed as Briana, but also help answer questions for me. I found that im not the only one and that many other people in my area have felt similar things as me their whole lives. I'm finally to the point where i will need to tell my parents who already h…

I don't want this to sound foolish but just what are the effects of hormones on sexual function ? I am happily married to an unbelievablly supportive wife, she helps and encourages me to be exactly who I am and to hell with what anyone else thinks. She does however insist that the twig and berries stay. So I am on low level estrodil - and yes I know self prescribed meds are dangerous. I have already begun therapy but I find the best information comes from the horses mouth or rather the T/S . I pretty much live as a woman already but I do want to keep my sexual function. Any advice or comments would be appreciated.

Hi. First of all i think it would be best to give a bit of background information. Im a 21 yr old male and i feel like ive been living a lie for the last 10 years. If u were to see me i look like the average bloke and behave like one too. The thing is im feeling really confused about who i am. At the age of 11 (this is the earliest i can remember these feelings) i was getting the feeling that i should be a female even though i knew i wasnt, and those feelings have never left me. I felt it best to pretend like i was feeling normal and ive structured my life so that i fit in, and nobody suspects anything. It was only recently i started re-searching transgender websites etc …

I'm a voracious cyclist. I have been putting in about 24 miles a week for the past few weeks to start gearing up for the not-so-rainy-and-cold season here, and during the nice parts of the year I've been known to put in a couple of 30+ mile (one-shot) trips per month. I've got a 60 mile, multi-day trip I want to do some time when it's nice. Some day if I'm ever in shape and have the time I'd love to do one of the across-the-state type events. I got to thinking about something today though. Does SRS cause problems with things like this where that crotch area gets a lot of pressure and/or friction? My wife's a GG and she complains about it. I know I have problems sometim…

I don't know where they came from, if they're mostly fat or real breast tissue, whatever.. but I have enough of a chest to get a little concerned lately after hearing some of my lady friends talk about sagging. I know, I know... and there's probably not enough there to worry about yet. But besides that... they sort of stick out and jiggle more than ought to be there for a man's chest; and, well, I'm still pretending to be a man around things like work. So I've taken to wearing sports bras on a regular basis. It flattens me out a little for someone not doing a close inspection, it actually gives more definition to my chest from my angle (which feels good) and it puts to r…

Hello I am a married man and I have a few questions maybe some of you will be able to help me with. I have been married 25 years and I have just told my wife that I am not sure what I am as cross dresser or a Transgender. I have felt all of my life that I feel like a woman but I was born a male. I dress in womens clothes maybe about every 2 years on and off but not all the time. I will dress a few times be satisfied then wait maybe 1 1/2 to 2 years and dress in womens clothes again just enough to be satisfied but not completely because I know in my mind I feel and look very feminine my hands are small my face is babyish I don't have a lot of facial hair. My mind thinks fe…

Hi girls, Sorry if I am going to repeat myself a little, but I need more clarity. I am sitting in a hotel room in Beijing, feeling very frustrated. I was just told that my concerts have been cancelled as half of the orchestra is stuck in the snow, so I have lots of time to worry about my gender problem. After spending some time with Pantau in the world of queer people in Bangkok, I now know that there is a place where it is not a big deal to be different from straight males and females. Being surrounded by so many different types of gender rebels, I feel quite comfortable. But I won’t be living in Bangkok for the rest of my life. I live in Bangkok because of my work a…

I got a copy of this today on the recommendation of my HRT doc and read through it over the past two evenings. Real interesting book, that. It seems pretty complete and unbiased. There are a few things I'd have thrown in there but I can't really fault it on breadth in general. Reading through some of it was really painful. The earlier chapters opened old wounds and the later chapters re-opened recent ones. *sigh* My doc said when she transitioned she just bought a stack of about 10 and sent them out to various people. Seems like a good idea, though as Michael discovered regarding this in his visit to his mom.. you can lead someone to water, but ...

I know I will never be a GG, I will be as close to one as I can get. But pregnancy is out of the question. I have always had a fantasy of having a very pretty wedding. I would walk down the isle in my Gown and be a queen to my new husband. I then would would have children with my new husband. Getting pregnant and all. I have so much envy for GG that have that. My soon to be ex wife asked me a question one time. She said being a woman is hard work. Would you take getting your peroid and all that comes with it. My answer was yes. I would have taken having my peroid. Wish they can transplant: Ovaries, Womb, ect... Maybe someday they will????? What does everyon…

Having begun my transition nearly eleven years ago I've had to deal with coming out to a lot of people--and I've gotten relatively comfortable with doing so. One person I never got the chance to come out to, however, is my best guy friend from childhood, whom I will call Dan. Dan and I pretty much hung around together all the time from when I was about 7 until we lost contact with each other when I was 18 (which was 28 years ago). I have been trying to locate Dan for many years, but since he has a very common name I was always unsuccessful in my search, that is, until now. Yesterday I managed to track down--and talk with--an old mutual friend of ours and I got Dan's phone…

There is a very interesting article about a transgendered woman, Rose, who will soon become the first transgender television host in India. The article " Tackling a Society's Boundaries, on TV and in a Family" is currently at "The New York Times" website. India, before British colonial rule, was generally one of the most tolerant civilizations in the world concerning human sexuality. Rose also briefly comments about her experiences living for awhile in the United States.

Let's see, I wonder how long it wil take someone at work tomorrow to notice the fact that I got my ears pierced today, and that I'm wearing cute gold earrings. any bets ? I'll say it takes them an hour to notice. Bobbie Jo

I am a man in the thirties and I have been with women all my life and I love that. But lately I have been thinking and fantasizing about having sex with a man. Anal, BJ. The whole thing. I want to be the receiver and the one who gives the BJ. In other words I would like to be the woman and dress up like one with the clothes and the make-up and everything. One year ago, I started wearing woman's jeans, because they look so sexy on the girls. And now I just love it, I can not get them tight enough. Especially the skinny jeans. I only wear them at home though, don't dear to wear them in public. Every day I rush home to change into the jeans. Kind of a fetish to …

Women's emotions are sort of like the feedback distortion from a speaker. A woman's feelings are more like an electric guitar, but men's emptions are like an acoustic (or sometimes a mandolin). Any thoughts on this?

Everytime you search transgender, transexual period there are always sites that pop up with a shemale having sex. Now no disrespect to girls on here who are non ops and all! I just think they all give us a poor image. We are not just chicks with dicks. We are women. We are women on the inside on some are on the inside and out, heart body and soul women. Just some of this girls make me sick. Yes I'm planning on getting surgery down there and my BF knows not to touch me there now, cause it is a part that I hate. I do not play the dom role at all as I am very feminine and submissive. Thats just me on rambling. Sorry must be my harmones raging! KELLIE

I'm taking this from a different forum, but it's an interesting conversation piece. If there were a pill that got rid of all your transgender urges and made you comfortable in your own sex, would you take it rather than transitioning? Personally, I think that I very well might still transition. Despite the numerous inconveniences, transsexualism can turn out to be a lucky malfunction. So many people have no idea how to make themselves happy in life or be able to achieve it. So transitioning is a blessing in disguise because what will make me happy is taken for granted by so many. Who would want a pill that took this away?

I dunno if a topic like this exists already, but go ahead and post your before and after pictures. (If you feel comfortable doing so...)

I have been on HRT for 6 weeks now. With increasing levels each month. I have notice some changes. I tend to be very sensitive about things, i.e. crying. MY mood swings are all over the map. I have hot and cold flashes. I have a DR apt tomm. I'm nervous he is going to take me down on the meds. I have noticed some positive things (now I have always dealt with Gynecomastia, ie male breasts) Even when I have been very thin. I'm now 185 #'s (5'11") my breasts are a B cup already. Since they have always been a A cup, because of my condition I guess having that condition has actually helped me ). My breasts are very sensitive, esp my nipples. Haven't noticed any rounding of my …