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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Blogs   

    Hey Everyone -
    Is anyone having trouble accessing the blogs on occasion?  I've been having trouble ever since the failed upgrade attempt not long ago.  Some days I can get to the blogs, other days I can't.
    Please post here if you are having trouble on occasion so that it can be looked into.
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Tennessee bill would allow therapists to refuse LGBT patients on religious grounds   

    Just my opinion... but I'd say the lawmakers of Tennessee are wasting their time on such a law, because for the most part, it is recommended that people suffering gender identity issues, see a therapist experienced in...   well, gender identity issues.   So, their law is worthless, 'cause most of us don't wanna see a regular, inexperienced therapist anyway.  So let them pound on as many bibles as they want, as often as they want.  Chances are, some people probably already knew where such therapists stood on the matter anyway....
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: I Will Not Be Tortured Again   

    News like that makes me angry.  I am so sick of hearing the "sexual predator dressing as and claiming to be a trans women to get into the womens' restrooms" scare tactic.  How ignorant do you have to be NOT to know that this is not happening.  Oh wait... I forgot - they don't consider trans women, women, and [from the sounds of it] trans men don't exist so there's no issue in that regard.
    It will be hillarious when they start busting trans men for going into women's restrooms because their idiot laws requires they do.  I still say that all out trans men should set up an event somewhere in the country where the law says a person must use the restroom that corresponds with their birth sex, have a "bathroom bill convention," and be sure to use the women's restrooms everywhere in that city/state they go.  Some of these moron law makers and fear mongers need to be awakened to their idiocy and ignorance.
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: TRP Offers Help with Legal Documents   

    "Given the results of the election here in the US, we are aiming to help as many US-based trans people get their paperwork / legal documents (especially passports) in order in the time they have to do so before the rules surrounding those documents change. We’re primarily focused on giving financial aid to people...."  --
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: I Will Not Be Tortured Again   

    David Michael Conner | 11/11/2016 11:36 am ET
    "I can’t say whether he is one of the abusers who called me a faggot, who kicked me, flicked my ears, pinched and punched me in the locker room, and who ultimately caused me to read the suicide textbook “The Final Exit” and stockpile pills throughout my youth as an emergency escape hatch."  --
    I Am Gay. I Will Not Be Tortured Again
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  6. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Breast Cancer Poses Unique Challenges for Trans Community   

    ""I was trying to see if I could get back into that program as a trans man, because I had the woman parts, but since I switched my identity over to male, everything says 'male,' then it doesn't count anymore," he added."  --
    It's one thing to know what ailments affect certain groups the most.. but maybe it's about time that medicine, and especially insurance, stop dictating who can or can't be treated for what, and what someone will or won't be covered for.
    "...there is limited research to assess their risks for developing breast cancer, according to Deutsch. She said transgender women who are taking female hormones can develop the disease, but their overall risk remains a mystery."
    Does there have to be research done and completed before transwomen can be treated?  Biological males can get breast cancer also - it's just not as common as in females, so either way, the chance is there.  They can do research, but in the meantime, transgender women shouldn't be denied preventative care or treatments.
    Based on what appears to be practices that are quickly becoming antiquated and reasons for denying medical care being illogical, we could soon have large numbers of transgender people (at least in the US) dying from certain forms of cancer that insurance will not cover, and doctors do not/will not/can not screen for just because of the "M" or "F" on a person's records, with no regard to the parts they were [unfortunately] born with.
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  7. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry: Lonely   

    TG Guide has been my "home away from home" also.  It's very rare that I don't sign in.  And yes, I feel bonds with people here too.  It is comforting to know that I can come here and read posts and makes post knowing that most everyone here understands most everyone else.  There is little judgementalness, and there is always someone with an encouraging word, or a sympathetic word.
    Ooh... and nail polish does not the woman make.  That's in your heart.  The polish is just so much window dressing 
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: When Even Professionals Can See It ...   

    "Sometimes things are more ambiguous. Not everyone is open about it."  -- Kitrah
    This is true - I was being sarcastic.   My sarcasm was born of issues we often read about where, for example, a transgender woman is referred to as male when she is wearing women's clothing, make up and jewlery, and perhaps has long hair, and her mannerisms are that of a woman's.  I mean... how much of a butthead do you have to be to call a woman a man when it's obvious she's presenting as female?   The same goes for transgender men. it because they consider the trans women they run into to be gay male prostitutes?
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Aim Higher?   

    It's a little late... that 81% will just have to suck it up and get over it.  Or hope their buddy Donald Drumpf wins the election.
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: When Even Professionals Can See It ...   

    ""We need transgender people to be part of our training, so officers are not meeting a transgender person for the first time on the job and stuttering over their words, not knowing whether to call the person sir or ma'am," he said."
    ::: in a monotone, sing-song-like tone of exasperation :::  .... If they look, sound AND are dressed like a woman, then it's "ma'am," if they look, sound AND are dressed like a man, then it's "sir." 
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Gender-affirming Surgeries to Resume After Nearly 40 Years   

    "The prestigious school is finally distancing itself from its anti-trans reputation."
    Zack Ford | [18] October 2016
    "In 1965, Johns Hopkins made history as the first academic institution to offer gender-affirming surgical procedures. Though the surgeries were experimental and geared toward research, they served as a model for teaching surgeons about the procedures that other schools then adopted."  --
    Johns Hopkins to resume gender-affirming surgeries after nearly 40 years
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: NYT: "How Changeable Is Gender?"   

    Woooooo-hoooooooooooooo... the let me see this article!!
    "If gender identity were a fixed and stable phenomenon in all young people, there would be little to argue about. But we have learned over the past two decades that, like so much else in child and adolescent behavior, the experience of gender dysphoria is itself often characterized by flux."
    In my opinion... all the more reason to lay off the binary system, and let people identify in whatever manner suits them - no matter their age.  Then, if a person's gender identity did change at one point or another or again, it would be no big deal.
    "... some groups recommend pharmacologically delaying the onset of puberty in gender dysphoric children until age 16, before proceeding to reassignment. Puberty suppression is presumed reversible, and can be stopped if the adolescent’s gender dysphoria desists. But the risks of this treatment are not fully understood."
    Seems to me that every pharmacological product on the market has some kind of undesireable side affects - if it's not evident by the documentation that comes with a drug, it's evident by the 100's of television commercials we're bombarded with by law firms telling people to call them if this or that happened to them while on some specific drug.
    If society can't dump the strict male-or-female-only construct, then it should allow medical professionals to administer hormone blockers until a child is of an acceptable or legal age and decides they are cisgender, and can then be taken off of hormone blockers and allow natural puberty to take over, or transgender and can then proceed with transition.  Society shouldn't be able to demand a person is cisgender AND refuse medical interventions, too, with the excuse that it doesn't know what hormone blockers 'might' do.
    Just seems to me to be logical.
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  13. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry: Lonely   

    Thank you ladies.  Loneliness does indeed touch us all at times...but it's a little easier to shoulder when there are people like you all around.  Maybe if I had been here on TG Guide back then, that poem might never have been written.  I've considered TG Guide like a haven online.  I was "sheltered" so to speak by the woman who invited me here from another transgender site.  Over time, she has faded into the background, but not before I learned from her how to moderate.  She doesn't come around so often fact, very rarely.  Over time it's people like you all who have filled the void.  As I'm sure you all know, acceptance means nearly everything, and for the most part, I have always felt accepted as the man that life outside of this forum doesn't even know exists.
    "Never had I seen such a touching poem about loneliness by a man!"  -Monica
    LOL... I guess it doesn't matter if a guy is transgender or cisgender, too many of us have a tendancy to keep things bottled up.  I never realized it, but my g/f has addressed this with me on several occasions, and even my own brother has expressed a concern about it.  But I guess every once in a while if the moon and stars are lined up just right, that bottle gets opened up, and all kinds of stuff comes pouring out. 
    Love all of ya's
    - Michael
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  14. UsernameOptional added a blog entry in Michael's Blog   

    In the thread, The Ladder, Monica expressed her desire to read the entire poem from which I took four lines to use in a post in that thread.
    The poem doesn't flow very well - I just hammered out enough words at the time in an attempt to rid myself of the hurt I was feeling at the time.  I might have been trying to write thru tears in the middle third of the poem.  It wasn't until the last four lines that I was able to bring it all into some kind of statement --

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  15. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Transgender voters may face problems voting in US elections   

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again - EVERYONE'S SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  Not everyone is out - that doesn't make them a "weekend warrior."  There was a time when the only time I could let loose and be and feel as my true self was on the weekend.  And while I no longer don anything that comes out of the women's department, I'm still not out, not transitioned, and have no documents that reflect my true gender.  But I'm not a weekend warrior, and I've never considered myself a crossdresser.  And while I don't understand gender fluidity, and will not pretend so, there should be a place in this world for the gender fluid, those who feel both male and female, and those who feel that they are neither.
    Some states make certain demands on trans people before they can legally change their ID, and some people are not able to meet those demands.   If a person cannot meet the requirements of their state, and cannot get the ID that matches their gender, does that mean they should present at places like voter registrars contrary to how they live?  And if they do, does that then make them a weekend "weekend warrior?"
    What we actually need is a society that has finally pulled it's head out of it's binary-determined ass and accept and/or embrace all people no matter WHERE along the gender spectrum they do or don't fall.
    If you're a cisgender, heterosexual male - good for you.   If you're a transgender female who's attracted only to women - good for you.   If you come to work in a dress, with make-up, curls, baubles and heels today, then tomorrow in a suit and tie - good for you.   And each one should respect the other for however they present.
    THAT'S where we need to be.  And if one wants to register to vote, they shouldn't have to bend, bow and be humiliated into some socially designed box or told, "sorry, you're not allowed to vote because you don't look like what we think you should look like."
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