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  1. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry: Therapy   

    Hi CTF, and welcome to TGG.
    I was about to toss out a barrage of questions and comments... but the ladies have pretty much covered everything.
    I would add a couple more things for you to consider -  part of your therapist's job is to help you transition into society as the man you identify as.  I would be curious to know how she is being helpful to you, when she herself is not recognizing you as a man.
    It seems to me, based on what you've related, she is just flat ignoring your identity.  I don't know what it means when you say your therapist is a contractural therapist, but I would think there would be some guidelines and ethics she is bound to follow and uphold.
    If your therapist can't start using your preferred pronouns and chosen name... you should definitely find another.  I realize the number of sessions you are allowed is limited, but I would think a limited time with a decent therapist would far out-weigh a full course with one who could potentially be damaging to your self-confidence, self-esteem, and identity by her refusal to respect you.
    -Michael
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Organization Protects TG People from Bathroom Bills   

    Zack Ford | Jun 15, 2017
    "To cement their commitment to honoring and protecting transgender people from discrimination, the AMA delegates also “called for future AMA meetings to take place, whenever possible, only in those counties, cities and states that have nondiscriminatory policies.”"  -- thinkprogress.org
    The country’s largest medical organization is protecting transgender people from ‘bathroom bills’
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Texas may lose 2018 NFL Draft   

    10 June 2017 | by Rafaella Gunz
    "Replacing old laws determining child protection, foster care, and adoption service, this Act requires all children’s services and judges to consider a child’s ‘race, ancestry, place of origin, color, ethnic origin, citizenship, family diversity, disability, creed, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression.’"  -- gaystarnews
    Texas may lose 2018 NFL Draft amidst transgender bathroom bill debates
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Denying Child's Gender Identity Child Abuse   

    10 June 2017 | by Rafaella Gunz
    "Replacing old laws determining child protection, foster care, and adoption service, this Act requires all children’s services and judges to consider a child’s ‘race, ancestry, place of origin, color, ethnic origin, citizenship, family diversity, disability, creed, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression.’"  -- gaystarnews
    This new Canadian law considers denying a child's gender identity a form of abuse
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: MS Man Sentenced for Hate Crime   

    Thanks Monica -
    Here are some new links:
    Man gets 49 years for anti-transgender hate crime killing
    Official says Justice will aggressively pursue hate crimes | WTOP  << this article doesn't mention hate crimes against the TGLB community, but instead repeatedly mentions religious hate crimes
    I cannot find a comparable article to the one that Emma linked... so in the meantime ----
    More reading on Session - see article that indicates he has fought AGAINST hate crime protections for TGLB victims
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  6. UsernameOptional added a blog entry in Michael's Blog   

    Wednesday Evening Rant
    The day didn't start out all that great to begin with... so I guess there was no reason to expect that it would end on a good note.  So why not just vent, get it out of my system, and start fresh tomorrow?  So, after reading this article someone sent me ....
    I guess it's good that ANY exposure will bode better for us... but are poorly written articles, no matter how well-intentioned, any better than those that sensationalize news and other stories when there just happens to be a transgender person involved?
    I.     This article, while informative to cisgender people about the health issues of trans people (has to be for them 'cause we already knew this), does nothing to help dispell the beliefs and misconceptions too many cisgender people have about transgender people.  I think the reporter, Karen Kaplan, should learn a bit more before trying to take on a topic she obviously knows little about.   Even though most of her article is simply passing on information from a study, her opening lines nearly kept me from even ready the rest of the article.  Makes me sorta think she's meerly jumping on a bandwagon that she believes is suddenly popular and therefore a potentially better payday.*
    II.    The reporter defines to her readers, most of whom I am sure are cisgender, what being transgender means, "their gender identity is not the same as their gender at birth."  Hmmmm.  This statement indicates that she clearly does not understand that that sex and gender are seperate, and that sex does NOT always guarantee a particular gender.  And how can anyone determine/dictate what a child's GENDER is at birth since that child cannot communicate that to anyone yet?  Of course the same applies to the reverse statement that followed.
    III.   "Gender-majority?"  WTH is that??  I think we have a good cross-cut of people who come to this board - I've not seen the mention of anything called "gender-majority."   I see this [new?] term as nothing more than something else to further marginalize trans people.  To emphasize that we are no more than a minority.  That is what America did to the variety of peoples in this country - made smaller, especially non-white groups, "minorities."  And where does that term come from?  "Minor."  And what does "minor" mean?   Inferior.  Not serious.  Not up to par.  Secondary.  Less than.  And then what did I find further down in the article?  "Gender minority."  God, I hope this doesn't catch on!
    So who coined this new term?  Surely it wasn't a transgender person.  I hope.  Was it the researchers from Brigham & Women’s Hospital  and Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center?  I would think that such entities and the people who staff those places would own a good grasp of terminology.  Or was this a brain-fart of Kaplan's, thinking she'd come up with something that she could go down in the books for, or perhaps a term she thought her cisgender readers might better understand or relate to?  Or maybe to allow those who think that way, to continue to believe they are better than we are?
    Okay.  Sorry for the rant.
    I'm done.    
    I thought about emailing Ms. Kaplan... I mean, since her email addy was right there at the bottom of the article, and all.  But I decided against it.  I'm not sure I am capable of a diplomatic butt-chewing.  And I wasn't in the mood to educate...  least ways, not right now...
     
    * Of 25+ pages of so-called "recent articles" by Kaplan - all the way back to May 2015 - the article on the healthcare of trans people appears to be the first article she's ever written about trans people, despite the fact that she has many articles with topics for which she has reported on multiple times for one reason or another.  Even in an article about bullying, there was no mention of transgender people, or even LGBT people.  Why suddenly now?
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  7. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Being Transgender May Be Hazardous   

    Karen Kaplan | May 30, 2017, 8:00 AM
    "Just under 66% of cisgender adults had a body mass index of at least 25, qualifying them as overweight. That may sound high, but it was significantly lower than the 72% share for the transgender adults."  --latimes.com
    Being transgender in America may be hazardous to your health, study shows
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Texas set to pass transgender bathroom law for schools   

    Amazing the lengths too many will go to just to deny someone else something, or deprive another of what they should already have had.  This country has a history of just that.  And humankind an even longer history of it.
    Must be in the DNA to be so hateful, judgemental and selfish....
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Judge Allows Person to Sue Under Disability Lawt   

    Reuters | May. 18, 2017, 11:12 PM | By Daniel Trotta
    "The lawsuit, which also cites protections in Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 against sex discrimination in employment, had asked the judge to rule that the ADA clause violates the U.S. Constitution because it denies equal protection for all under the law." -- businessinsider.com
    U.S. judge allows first transgender person to sue under disability law (CAB)
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: US Split on Need for Anti-Discrimination Laws   

    Eric DuVall   |   May 18, 2017 at 2:47 PM
    "The issue came to prominence after North Carolina passed H.B. 2, known as the bathroom bill, which forced transgender individuals to use the bathroom corresponding with their birth certificate. The legislation sparked a national debate, as well as protests and a number of corporate boycotts in North Carolina."  --  upi.com
    U.S. remains split on need for LGBT anti-discrimination laws
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: MS Man Sentenced for Hate Crime   

    ​Neither do I....
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: MS Man Sentenced for Hate Crime   

    First-ever conviction on federal hate crime charges arising from the killing of a transgender woman
    Jeff Amy, AP
    GULFPORT, Miss. — May 15, 2017, 6:57 PM ET
    "Demoya Gordon, attorney for the Transgender Rights Project of Lambda Legal, called the prosecution "significant" but noted it began under President Barack Obama's administration and added "the cake was already baked" on Vallum's sentencing when Donald Trump became president." -- abcnews.go.com
    Man gets 49 years for anti-transgender hate crime killing
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: net neutrality, please join in   

    Yup... saw this on his show.
    Gotta love the creativeness in that link
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Transgender Christians   

    I hope their main interest is letting those who wish to be a part of some Christian group, that they are welcome, no matter their gender identity or sexual orientation.
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  15. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Female voice improvement   

    Hello Allison... and welcome.
    This entire forum is about voice.  There is also the youtube video that Lori put the link for in the post just above your's.
    Go back to Transgender Voice... and you will find a variety of discussions on voice issues, vocabulary, tips and voice training.
    -Michael
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