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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Aim Higher?   

    It's a little late... that 81% will just have to suck it up and get over it.  Or hope their buddy Donald Drumpf wins the election.
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: When Even Professionals Can See It ...   

    ""We need transgender people to be part of our training, so officers are not meeting a transgender person for the first time on the job and stuttering over their words, not knowing whether to call the person sir or ma'am," he said."
    ::: in a monotone, sing-song-like tone of exasperation :::  .... If they look, sound AND are dressed like a woman, then it's "ma'am," if they look, sound AND are dressed like a man, then it's "sir." 
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Gender-affirming Surgeries to Resume After Nearly 40 Years   

    "The prestigious school is finally distancing itself from its anti-trans reputation."
    Zack Ford | [18] October 2016
    "In 1965, Johns Hopkins made history as the first academic institution to offer gender-affirming surgical procedures. Though the surgeries were experimental and geared toward research, they served as a model for teaching surgeons about the procedures that other schools then adopted."  --
    Johns Hopkins to resume gender-affirming surgeries after nearly 40 years
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: NYT: "How Changeable Is Gender?"   

    Woooooo-hoooooooooooooo... the let me see this article!!
    "If gender identity were a fixed and stable phenomenon in all young people, there would be little to argue about. But we have learned over the past two decades that, like so much else in child and adolescent behavior, the experience of gender dysphoria is itself often characterized by flux."
    In my opinion... all the more reason to lay off the binary system, and let people identify in whatever manner suits them - no matter their age.  Then, if a person's gender identity did change at one point or another or again, it would be no big deal.
    "... some groups recommend pharmacologically delaying the onset of puberty in gender dysphoric children until age 16, before proceeding to reassignment. Puberty suppression is presumed reversible, and can be stopped if the adolescent’s gender dysphoria desists. But the risks of this treatment are not fully understood."
    Seems to me that every pharmacological product on the market has some kind of undesireable side affects - if it's not evident by the documentation that comes with a drug, it's evident by the 100's of television commercials we're bombarded with by law firms telling people to call them if this or that happened to them while on some specific drug.
    If society can't dump the strict male-or-female-only construct, then it should allow medical professionals to administer hormone blockers until a child is of an acceptable or legal age and decides they are cisgender, and can then be taken off of hormone blockers and allow natural puberty to take over, or transgender and can then proceed with transition.  Society shouldn't be able to demand a person is cisgender AND refuse medical interventions, too, with the excuse that it doesn't know what hormone blockers 'might' do.
    Just seems to me to be logical.
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  5. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry: Lonely   

    Thank you ladies.  Loneliness does indeed touch us all at times...but it's a little easier to shoulder when there are people like you all around.  Maybe if I had been here on TG Guide back then, that poem might never have been written.  I've considered TG Guide like a haven online.  I was "sheltered" so to speak by the woman who invited me here from another transgender site.  Over time, she has faded into the background, but not before I learned from her how to moderate.  She doesn't come around so often fact, very rarely.  Over time it's people like you all who have filled the void.  As I'm sure you all know, acceptance means nearly everything, and for the most part, I have always felt accepted as the man that life outside of this forum doesn't even know exists.
    "Never had I seen such a touching poem about loneliness by a man!"  -Monica
    LOL... I guess it doesn't matter if a guy is transgender or cisgender, too many of us have a tendancy to keep things bottled up.  I never realized it, but my g/f has addressed this with me on several occasions, and even my own brother has expressed a concern about it.  But I guess every once in a while if the moon and stars are lined up just right, that bottle gets opened up, and all kinds of stuff comes pouring out. 
    Love all of ya's
    - Michael
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  6. UsernameOptional added a blog entry in Michael's Blog   

    In the thread, The Ladder, Monica expressed her desire to read the entire poem from which I took four lines to use in a post in that thread.
    The poem doesn't flow very well - I just hammered out enough words at the time in an attempt to rid myself of the hurt I was feeling at the time.  I might have been trying to write thru tears in the middle third of the poem.  It wasn't until the last four lines that I was able to bring it all into some kind of statement --

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  7. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Transgender voters may face problems voting in US elections   

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again - EVERYONE'S SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  Not everyone is out - that doesn't make them a "weekend warrior."  There was a time when the only time I could let loose and be and feel as my true self was on the weekend.  And while I no longer don anything that comes out of the women's department, I'm still not out, not transitioned, and have no documents that reflect my true gender.  But I'm not a weekend warrior, and I've never considered myself a crossdresser.  And while I don't understand gender fluidity, and will not pretend so, there should be a place in this world for the gender fluid, those who feel both male and female, and those who feel that they are neither.
    Some states make certain demands on trans people before they can legally change their ID, and some people are not able to meet those demands.   If a person cannot meet the requirements of their state, and cannot get the ID that matches their gender, does that mean they should present at places like voter registrars contrary to how they live?  And if they do, does that then make them a weekend "weekend warrior?"
    What we actually need is a society that has finally pulled it's head out of it's binary-determined ass and accept and/or embrace all people no matter WHERE along the gender spectrum they do or don't fall.
    If you're a cisgender, heterosexual male - good for you.   If you're a transgender female who's attracted only to women - good for you.   If you come to work in a dress, with make-up, curls, baubles and heels today, then tomorrow in a suit and tie - good for you.   And each one should respect the other for however they present.
    THAT'S where we need to be.  And if one wants to register to vote, they shouldn't have to bend, bow and be humiliated into some socially designed box or told, "sorry, you're not allowed to vote because you don't look like what we think you should look like."
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Hope, Relief in New Policy   

    Ben Finley, Associated Press |  ALEXANDRIA, Va. — Oct 2, 2016, 10:28 AM ET
    " A federal statute from the 1980s specifically bans military insurance from covering surgery for "sex gender changes." The law allows the defense secretary to make exceptions for active-duty members but not military dependents or retirees, said Pahon, the Pentagon spokesman."  --
    Hope, Relief for Transgender Military Families in New Policy
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    Meka Beresford | 1st October 2016, 5:43 PM
    "The governor of the state, Pat McCrory, said his state would call a session to consider repealing the widely condemned bill, but only if the city of Charlotte repeals its own LGBT protections."
    Southern Conference will keep their championships in North Carolina
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Clinics to Start HRT for Trans People   

    Naseem S. Miller | September 27, 2016, 5:18 PM
    ""Studies have shown that over the last couple of decades, due to discrimination and abuse, transgender people simply postpone or do without health-care. As a result, their situations are more likely to become emergency medical problems and much more severe," said Duncan, who helped train the Planned Parenthood staff."  --
    Clinics to start hormone therapy services for transgender people
    While this is great news, I have to question WHY the Orlando Sentinel found it necessary to stick a vid about an increasing threat of untreatable gonorrhea smack in the middle of the article.  Is it some subliminal message to straight cisgender people that VD and transsexuality go hand-in-hand?  Okay...that sounds a bit conspiracy-theory-ish... but damn!!  -Mike
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Homosexuality not inate   

    ​I did consider deleting the OP until I spotted the mention of trans people in the article also... and of course, the purpose of this particular forum is for news, information and discussion that is not necessarily or directly trans related, but could potentially affect us.
    I tried to spot a link to a legitimate medical or scientific website among the returned search results when I googled this topic, but saw nothing (didn't really spend too much time on it though).  It would be interesting to know exactly where this came from, and if it was really worded they way these conservative websites have done.
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Homosexuality not inate   

    While this article could potentially throw EVERYONE not heterosexual and cisgender smooth under the bus... I want to highlight the fact that the article indicates not that homosexuality is not innate (despite its headline), but that allegedly, SEXUALITY is not innate - that includes heterosexuality.
    It also appears that the website is a faith-based site, and will no doubt jump on anything that would indicate or imply that being homosexual, bisexual or transgender is a choice.
    From another website, "two top Johns Hopkins University psychiatrists say there is insufficient evidence to conclude people are born with heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual attractions."  Again however, the website on which the quoted text can be found, according to wikipedia, is "influential in American conservative circles."
    What's scarey is that the bigotted politicians of the country could use this kind of thing to undo every advancement that the the TGLB community has rightfully achieved.
    NOTE:  The OP's comment, "I don't know if the posting thread is in the right category but anything involving sex should be in intersex forum's," is obviously out of place:
        1.  The post was originally in the intersex forum, and was moved
        2.  There is either a misunderstanding of what intersex is, or a misunderstanding of the purpose of the intersex forum
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: How to Upload a Profile Photo   

    Are you trying to upload a photo to use as an avatar?  If that is where you are getting the message, then it means the image cannot exceed that file size.  If it is for your avatar, you could upload it to the member gallery if you like, then I can download it, resize it, and upload it so that you could then use it.
    Otherwise, I would really need more info in order to figure out the problem.
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic: Salem police investigating explosion of LGBT newspaper box   

    The attitude of the police is disgusting.   
    Considering the "explosion" could be heard a mile away, this obviously wasn't a firecracker.  Had it been a firecracker, I could understand the hesitation to call it a hate crime, as something so small (in the scheme of things) could be considered a stupid act of vandalism.
    That the mailbox has been "vandalized" TEN TIMES IN THE PAST... would seemingly qualify this latest incident as nothing but hate, thereby making it a hate crime.
    But what the heck do I know?? 
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