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    Trans But Still in the Closet

    Change is still slow... a lot slower than we prefer to believe. I happened to be looking around another board this morning and was running down the General Transgender Discussion forum index page when I spotted a thread with the title, "Trans but still in the closet." The thread was created in April 2018. There were only eight replies to the thread to date. However, that thread had been viewed nearly 16,000 times. I can think of only a few reasons why the view count is so high: 1. Curiosity - why is the person [still] not out 2. General reading - individuals who just read every new thread/post 3. There are still a LOT of us, who, for whatever reasons, are still in the closet and went to that thread because they can relate Only one other thread comes anywhere near having as many views at just over 1,800. Obviously, 1,800 is not close, and this despite a thread title of "Need to talk." Talk about what? One would think that sheer curiosity would bump the view count way up there. This same board has an "adult" forum, and even in that area of the board, of the 36 threads, only two have more than 1,000 views. What's ironic is, despite the purpose of that particular forum, the two threads with the 1k+ views are NOT "adult-themed," but threads asking for [non-sexual] information. I am inclined to believe that the reason the view count is so high on that thread falls under #3 above. Bigotry, unacceptance, social stigma, fear, lack of access to appropriate/adequate medical care, anti-TGLBQ+ laws, lack of or absence of inclusive/acknowleging rights, etc., etc., etc.... still serves to keep so many of us in hiding. We can all rally 'round and proclaim there have been great strides accomplished in the name of change - perhaps to make us feel better. Fact is, those changes have come at the pace of a half-dead snail going uphill thru molasses in winter. To exacerbate the issue, there are forces whittling away at what few advances have been gained over the last few years. And let's not forget we have a vice-prez who is rabidly anti-TGLBQ. God (or whoever) help us if 45 is impeached or otherwise vacates the Whitehouse and the VP becomes top dog. You think dummy is hell-bent on a damn wall... yer white-haired, beady-eyed VP is hell-bent on converting everyone to straight cisgender christians. We STILL have a painfully LONG way to go. And at this point, I seriously doubt I will see in my lifetime SIGNIFICANT positive, beneficial change that allows for all people all along the gender spectrum to move freely and safely throughout society, with all the rights as any other person. -Michael
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    I believe bullying will be around until man can learn to accept all people no matter where they come from, what path they walk or have walked. Society mandates too many vain, petty, ignorant, irrational and insignificant rules. These rules adversely affect people causing a variety of insecurities, some of which can manifest as cruelty in one form or another. Bullying will also continue to plague this society as long as you have those who grow up to utter things like, "they're just kids," or "they'll grow out of it," or "I was bullied, and I survived," ... etc., etc., etc., and then turn the other way. Or worse, they've grown up, still bullies, and pass that behavior on to their own children. Bullying will continue to plague this society as long as there are parents and other adults from all corners of society who do not condemn the behavior, and teach future generations that differences are natural and normal, and that no one is a lesser being than another. It's sad that we can all relate to being bullied....
  3. Pretty damn sad when a person runs for their life from one country only to lose their life in another country - a country that is SUPPOSED to be welcoming of ALL people, and a haven for those seeking asylum. The U.S. should be ashamed. Our government should be ashamed. Yeah. Fat chance at the moment...
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    Won't Be Erased

    Steph... you PM box is jammed full and busting at the seams - no one can PM you. Ya need to delete a few PMs. -Mike
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    Transgender driving license issued in Pakistan

    Kudos to the Islamabad Police for issuing the license. It's unfortunate that like here, there are some who seem to have an issue with transgender people having the same rights (or privileges) as cisgender people. And it seems that "Aliimran1" believes that Laila should be grovelling at someone's feet, over-flowing with thanks for being looked upon so favourably.
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    Hair Removal

    Since this thread has been revived, but the OP has never returned, the following info (in addition to what has already been offered) may be helpful to those who live in or near, or willing to travel to, the Hallandale Beach, FL area - Laser by Michelle List of Services YouTube Testimonials
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    Won't Be Erased

    Jessie Earl | November 14 2018 5:04 AM EST "Over 200 members of the transgender community submitted videos for our "We Won't Be Erased" video in order to recognize and honor Transgender Awareness Week. It's been a difficult time, with the recent report that the Trump administration is trying to define transgender people out of existence; news that follows last year's transgender military ban and the repeal of Obama-era guidance to protect trans students in schools. Yet the community has continually shown resilience..." -- advocate.com 200 Transgender People Share Why They Won't Be Erased
  8. "Equality Stafford, an LGBT rights group in Stafford, Va., wrote in a Facebook post that instructors at Stafford County Middle School forced the student to sit alone in the gym because they could not decide which bathroom or locker room to send her." -excerpt from the article on thehill.com If there was an actual emergency - no matter what that emergency was - would it, in the moment when people are running for their lives... MATTER WHAT ROOM ANY CHILD OR OTHER PERSON DUCKED INTO TO HIDE?? REALLY? And it seems to me they had the answer all along. The girl shoulda been sent with all the other girls to whatever lockerroom or bathroom all the other girls went too. GEEZ! I think I'm getting old...this stuff burns me up a lot more than it used to!
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    Trump Is Back On The Attack

    Drumpf has made it a point, made it his mission to UNDO anything and everything that Obama did - good or bad. When it comes to the community, I believe he is getting help from his VP - I'm sure you all remember where that beady-eyed homophobe came from and what he cost his state. What's scarier is that no one is putting a stop to Drumpf... so I'm not gonna say that remaining protections are safe, or what titles, decisions or anything else "should" protect us from any further stripping of previous advancements or improvements. I don't think we'll be safe (subjective as that may be) until this clown is out of office.
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    Uploading Images

    Hi Dawn... That almost sounds like the issue is with the Gallery and not your O/S. I would think if the O/S were the problem (like a conflict with the latest forum upgrade), you wouldn't be able to upload any pix anywhere on the board. As for accessing the blog... Monica was having trouble before the upgrade which was quite a mystery. It was never solved either. Both these issues are over my head - I will pass them on to Lori. -Mike
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    The leaderboard and days won?

    Hi Mikayla - The board was recently upgraded, and the Leaderboard is new for us. So, as much as I hate to admit it, I don't really know much about it, or the criteria that places a member in any particular position. But it's likely that Briannah's answer is right. All I would add is that I think in addition to the "likes" a post might receive, how active a thread is might also play a part in where a member is placed on the leaderboard. I'll try to see what I can find out. -Mike
  12. I can sort of relate to your studying various religions - I don't study them, but I do enjoy watching documentaries. The stories are interesting, and of course, often explain how and why so many religions developed, and the need for so many people to have some entity bigger than themselves to believe in. It seems the belief in such has existed nearly as long as man has existed.
  13. Hi Blackangel... and welcome to TG Guide. I was raised in the Episcopal church, but I began moving away from religion in my early 20s, and as I've aged, I've freed myself of any dependence on religion or any god(s) or goddess(es). There are just too many holes in Christianity and other religions... though I think Christianity is by far, the sketchiest of all. However, no matter my belief (or, disbelief), I respect how others believe as long as they don't try to cram their beliefs down my throat. Religion is such a touchy subject, and in a country that alleges Christianity is the major religion, I can certainly understand why you are having trouble finding other polytheistic people. There are surely other polytheistic trans people...but considering we ourselves are supposed to be such a small minority, that no doubt exacerbates your search. Good luck. I know it is always nice to be able to find like-minded people. -Michael
  14. Does appear to be clik bait simply because of the title. But I'm wondering if that was a ploy to get those who NEED to hear that information to check it out. We KNOW what "transgender" and "gender dysphoria" are, and we know they are not mental illnesses. It's the people who think we are mentally disturbed who need to learn something. Perhaps the vid was aimed at them.
  15. Well, at the risk of beginning to sound like a broken record, seems the world around us is moving forward by leaps and bounds... leaving us behind to deal with haters and bigots, and watch as the current regime slowly chips away at the few advances we achieved in previous years.