MonicaPz

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About MonicaPz

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  • Birthday 01/19/1958

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Beacon NY
  • Interests Am a CG Lesbian with an open mind. Have had many TG friends when I lived in Florida. Exploring art. Enjoy coffee houses with live music. Visit museums and art galleries. Am on disability, using a cane. Sedate but have an active mind.

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  1. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Ups and Downs   

    Dear Charlotte and Emma,
    There have been some situations where people AT FIRST supported a transgendered person, but then changed their mind (probably under pressure from their family and friends).
    This has also happened to me as a Lesbian.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  2. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Next step...hair   

    Dear Ladies,
    Please keep in mind that ONE OUT OF THREE adult cisgender women wear wigs or hair pieces.
    Have experimented with wearing a wig.  The wig flattered me very much and was much more attractive than my natural hair.  Wore it daily but kept very good care of it.  Sadly, even though it was an $85.00 wig, I had to give it up, because the wig only lasted three months, which would have been financially prohibitive for me.
    By the way, artificial hair wigs are much more comfortable than natural hair wigs, in my experience, and just as natural looking.  Also, I think artificial hair wigs seem to stand up to wear and tear better than natural hair wigs.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  3. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: NY Pride - reflections   

    Dear Chrissy,
    Loved your T-Shirts.  
    Watched the NYC Pride on TV and I look forward to many more televised Prides!  
    A Gaymale friend of mine went to the NYC Pride in person and, as always, he absolutely loved it.  He never misses it.
    Feel the NYC Pride is BOTH a march AND a parade!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  4. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Transforming   

    Dear Kitrah and Emma,
    Have found women are very individual on this.
    Recall decades ago when I was a teenager that I babysat for a baby girl since she was three days old.  Both of her parents were 100% heterosexual and dressed casually (T-shirts and jeans) at every opportunity but their baby girl, with whom I was able to observe almost from birth growing up, insisted on dressing in "party" or "holiday themed" DRESSES at every opportunity!  Her parents did not understand where this came from!!
    Agree that APPROPRIATE is very important, as I have observed cisgender SENIOR women dressing like teens, another cisgender senior woman putting on so much makeup that she looked like a clown (LITERALLY!) as well as teenagers (like me) that dressed frumpy in their teens!
    The secret is to be appropriate for your age and occasion, yet retain your "voice."
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  5. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: "Meet Emma": My Coming Out Email   

    AWESOME!  REQUIRED READING AND VIEWING FOR EVERYONE!
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  6. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: MS Man Sentenced for Hate Crime   

    Emma and Mike,
    Your pages are no longer available.
    Monica
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  7. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Reflection on the past year   

    Dear Karen and Chrissy,
    Just had a dream just like that, and I am a cisgender Lesbian woman who had a hysterectomy 17 years old.  Rarely do I feel sensuality, but every now and then I surprise myself!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  8. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: some thought   

    Dear Kitrah,
    Absolutely love your photography!  Love butterflies and their chrysalis (cocoons)!  They symbolize spirituality . . . .
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  9. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Wonderful Experience   

    Dear Emma,
    Absolutely love your pictures!  May I suggest you get a Season/color evaluation.  Every woman should get this.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  10. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Bonnie,
    Can't seem to PM you.  Don't know if it is at your end.
    Monica
     
     
     
     
     
     
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  11. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Dear Friends,
    Thank you for responding.
    Where I live it is hard to find/make friends.  As one acquaintance recently told me, in the northeast, it is "dog eat dog."  Grew up hearing my own mother say the same thing. Since moving to upstate New York, I have learned how right my mother was in saying the things she said (I grew up here).
    Definitely plan on being very honest UP FRONT about this, because I do not want anyone thinking I mislead them.
    Probably I am not in the place where I belong.  Not one to live a lie.  
    Will let you all know how it turns out!
    Thank you very much for reaching out to me.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  12. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: On "Tolerance"   

    Dear Friends,
    Did not like the proviso Emma's friend put on their "tolerance," which was if Emma was a Trump supporter or, worse, she "came out."
    I, too, do not like the way Emma's friend emphasized "tolerance" as it implied that the friend was doing it only because it was the "politically correct" thing to do.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  13. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: One Door Closes, Another Door Opens   

    Dear Friends,
    Emma, please let me know how Seattle and Portland are from a woman's point of view.
    Just to remind you all, we change COMPLETELY, physically and emotionally, DECADE by DECADE.  So the person that Emma's wife fell in love with ten or more years ago is not the same person today.  Also, Emma's partner is not the same person she was ten or more years ago than she is today.  Only a lucky few grow in parallel for ten years or more.  Our complex society makes it even harder!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  14. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Horns of a Dilemma   

    Dear Emma,
    Tend to agree with Bree.  Feel it is potentially dangerous.  
    It is sad we have to filter our thoughts to control what comes out of our mouths according to a situation.
    Please remember that as a woman you must take greater care.  
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  15. MonicaPz added a blog entry in MonicaPz's Blog   

    Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?
    All my life I sought a life-long relationship, and, yes, I found true love for ten years, (in my forties), only to lose it for my refusal to marry her (back then, a Holy Union), for fear of losing my Disability benefits and bankrupting her as a result.
    As I approach my 60's, I realize I have become more complex, because of all the life experience I have been through, making it more difficult for me to find someone with whom I am compatible.  What brought this home to me was my experience with four Lesbian dating websites, (from my mid-fifties to the present), where the women my age (59) were more complicated and had more complex demands on a potential partner.
    Slowly, it gradually occurred to me, that if I didn't find an alternative way of looking at love and companionship, that very likely I would remain single and have no romantic love and companionship for the rest of my life.
    Gradually, I realized serial brief relationships (with the possibility of a relationship growing into a friendship or even a long-term relationship) would be a lot more realistic.  
    Here are my reasons:
    WHY IT'S BEST I LIVE ALONE
    Am set in my ways.Needs to use the bathroom on short notice.Gassy.Terrible odor when I use the bathroom.Never shared my living space (not even with my lover of 10 years).Can not share my apartment and finances due to being on Disability.Needs to live in HUD Public Housing (if anyone wanted to live with me, they, too, would have to be "very low income," too).Allergic to horses, dogs, cats and birds (most Lesbians not only have cats and dogs, but sleep with their pets).Am actually happy with my apartment (and I am unlikely to find as good an apartment - especially HUD Housing - anywhere).Only negative where I live is some residents in Beacon and many residents of my apartment complex, I don't like.  Avoid them and save money to take trips every three or four months.Love my building.Management treats me humanely.Maintenance treats me humanely, and does an efficient and thorough job maintaining and cleaning the building as well as making repairs in my apartment. (Most HUD Public Housing properties are poorly maintained.)Very low crime rate where I live.  (The lowest crime rate I have every seen at a HUD Public Housing property I have ever seen.)​Here are what I think are the advantages of short-term relationships:
    The Advantages of Short-Term Relationships
    Due to very low income (some would call this a "budget income," I can not relocate quickly to continue dating a woman (in order to avoid a "U-Haul" situation where I would move in with her, and hope for the best!)Most women do not qualify (very low income) and are uncomfortable dating a woman who lives in HUD Public Housing, especially if it is poorly maintained and is in a dangerous neighborhood.Able to enjoy the relationship before the drama and games begin.Can't find a woman locally to me because of homophobia where I live.  (Most women are already coupled before they move here.)Both parties should be single out of respect for other relationships and for themselves.Sex is not the primary reason for such a relationship, but companionship.​Of course, there are many other reasons people may choose short-term relationships rather than long-term or lifelong relationships.
    Would like to hear from others if they resonate with this in their own lives (especially if they are 60 +) and how realistic they think this is.
    Am I selling myself short?  Or am I having realistic expectations for a 59 year old, average-looking woman, who is kind, compassionate, supportive and has many interests?
    Thank you in advance for your comments!

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