MonicaPz

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About MonicaPz

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  • Birthday 01/19/1958

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Beacon NY
  • Interests Am a CG Lesbian with an open mind. Have had many TG friends when I lived in Florida. Exploring art. Enjoy coffee houses with live music. Visit museums and art galleries. Am on disability, using a cane. Sedate but have an active mind.

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  1. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Wonderful Experience   

    Dear Emma,
    Absolutely love your pictures!  May I suggest you get a Season/color evaluation.  Every woman should get this.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  2. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Bonnie,
    Can't seem to PM you.  Don't know if it is at your end.
    Monica
     
     
     
     
     
     
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  3. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Dear Friends,
    Thank you for responding.
    Where I live it is hard to find/make friends.  As one acquaintance recently told me, in the northeast, it is "dog eat dog."  Grew up hearing my own mother say the same thing. Since moving to upstate New York, I have learned how right my mother was in saying the things she said (I grew up here).
    Definitely plan on being very honest UP FRONT about this, because I do not want anyone thinking I mislead them.
    Probably I am not in the place where I belong.  Not one to live a lie.  
    Will let you all know how it turns out!
    Thank you very much for reaching out to me.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  4. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: On "Tolerance"   

    Dear Friends,
    Did not like the proviso Emma's friend put on their "tolerance," which was if Emma was a Trump supporter or, worse, she "came out."
    I, too, do not like the way Emma's friend emphasized "tolerance" as it implied that the friend was doing it only because it was the "politically correct" thing to do.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  5. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: One Door Closes, Another Door Opens   

    Dear Friends,
    Emma, please let me know how Seattle and Portland are from a woman's point of view.
    Just to remind you all, we change COMPLETELY, physically and emotionally, DECADE by DECADE.  So the person that Emma's wife fell in love with ten or more years ago is not the same person today.  Also, Emma's partner is not the same person she was ten or more years ago than she is today.  Only a lucky few grow in parallel for ten years or more.  Our complex society makes it even harder!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  6. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Horns of a Dilemma   

    Dear Emma,
    Tend to agree with Bree.  Feel it is potentially dangerous.  
    It is sad we have to filter our thoughts to control what comes out of our mouths according to a situation.
    Please remember that as a woman you must take greater care.  
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  7. MonicaPz added a blog entry in MonicaPz's Blog   

    Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?
    All my life I sought a life-long relationship, and, yes, I found true love for ten years, (in my forties), only to lose it for my refusal to marry her (back then, a Holy Union), for fear of losing my Disability benefits and bankrupting her as a result.
    As I approach my 60's, I realize I have become more complex, because of all the life experience I have been through, making it more difficult for me to find someone with whom I am compatible.  What brought this home to me was my experience with four Lesbian dating websites, (from my mid-fifties to the present), where the women my age (59) were more complicated and had more complex demands on a potential partner.
    Slowly, it gradually occurred to me, that if I didn't find an alternative way of looking at love and companionship, that very likely I would remain single and have no romantic love and companionship for the rest of my life.
    Gradually, I realized serial brief relationships (with the possibility of a relationship growing into a friendship or even a long-term relationship) would be a lot more realistic.  
    Here are my reasons:
    WHY IT'S BEST I LIVE ALONE
    Am set in my ways.Needs to use the bathroom on short notice.Gassy.Terrible odor when I use the bathroom.Never shared my living space (not even with my lover of 10 years).Can not share my apartment and finances due to being on Disability.Needs to live in HUD Public Housing (if anyone wanted to live with me, they, too, would have to be "very low income," too).Allergic to horses, dogs, cats and birds (most Lesbians not only have cats and dogs, but sleep with their pets).Am actually happy with my apartment (and I am unlikely to find as good an apartment - especially HUD Housing - anywhere).Only negative where I live is some residents in Beacon and many residents of my apartment complex, I don't like.  Avoid them and save money to take trips every three or four months.Love my building.Management treats me humanely.Maintenance treats me humanely, and does an efficient and thorough job maintaining and cleaning the building as well as making repairs in my apartment. (Most HUD Public Housing properties are poorly maintained.)Very low crime rate where I live.  (The lowest crime rate I have every seen at a HUD Public Housing property I have ever seen.)​Here are what I think are the advantages of short-term relationships:
    The Advantages of Short-Term Relationships
    Due to very low income (some would call this a "budget income," I can not relocate quickly to continue dating a woman (in order to avoid a "U-Haul" situation where I would move in with her, and hope for the best!)Most women do not qualify (very low income) and are uncomfortable dating a woman who lives in HUD Public Housing, especially if it is poorly maintained and is in a dangerous neighborhood.Able to enjoy the relationship before the drama and games begin.Can't find a woman locally to me because of homophobia where I live.  (Most women are already coupled before they move here.)Both parties should be single out of respect for other relationships and for themselves.Sex is not the primary reason for such a relationship, but companionship.​Of course, there are many other reasons people may choose short-term relationships rather than long-term or lifelong relationships.
    Would like to hear from others if they resonate with this in their own lives (especially if they are 60 +) and how realistic they think this is.
    Am I selling myself short?  Or am I having realistic expectations for a 59 year old, average-looking woman, who is kind, compassionate, supportive and has many interests?
    Thank you in advance for your comments!

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  8. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: First Migraine After A While   

    Dear Michele and Emma,
    My mother had migraines on the right side of her head.  She kept this fact to herself to avoid prejudicing me for or against should I develop migraines.
    When I told my mother I get them in the right side of my head, she validated this was true for her, too.  Feel like a rock is being forced into my right eye.  As I get older, they are less severe, so I think they are related to my estrogen.
    Since they last for 1/2 hour, I do not treat them with anything beyond over the counter painkillers.
    May you be well!
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  9. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Post Operation Thrills   

    Dear Michele,
    You were wise to bring many sanitary napkins with you to the hospital.  Also recommend women bring their own Chux pads to protect them from overflow onto their bedding.
    Am looking forward to the time when transwomen can adopt.  Cisgender Lesbians and Gaymales have an excellent record when it comes to having children.  Not many cisgender Straight males have had children, but the few who do, have an excellent track record.  Looking forward to when transwomen can adopt children.  Am sure transmen will also have an excellent track record when adopting or having children.  There are so many children waiting to be adopted!  Please don't give up hope.
    Hoping you continue healing.  Am a cancer survivor of 17 years myself (uterine cancer).
    Sending love and prayers your way.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
     
     
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  10. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Fond Farewell   

    Dear Charl,
    Your cooking on Instagram looks DELICIOUS!
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  11. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Fond Farewell   

    Dear Charl,
    I, too, click "like this," for the same reasons that Emma stated.
    Really enjoy hearing from women with your talents, and I will miss you.  Hope you return soon.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
     
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  12. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Living on hope of vacation.   

    Dear Bree,
    Am so sorry to hear that your Dad won't take responsibility for his dogs' behavior.  Sadly, in our society, dogs are blamed for bad behavior, when mostly it is the owners' fault.
    Yours,
    Monica
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  13. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: New Neighbor story. Short, but this is my weird life.   

    Bree,
    Am so sorry about the loss of your cat.
    Monica
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  14. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: More Clarity   

    Dear Mike and Emma,
    Often parents (both mothers and fathers) are disappointed with a child for any number of reasons:  the "wrong" sex, not being good looking enough, not being smart enough, being unplanned (unwanted) and not being athletic enough, among MANY OTHER reasons.  Children, sooner or later, pick up on not being fully accepted.
    Strongly feel there should be premarital classes and parenting classes required before marriage and having children, dealing with these issues and more. 
    Feel that most, if not all, child abuse emanates from unmet expectations of parents!
    Yours,
    Monica
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  15. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: More Clarity   

    Dear Mike,
    Am sorry to hear that your mother can not accept that she has TWO sons, and NO DAUGHTERS.  Wish she was like me, in that she would rejoice on having HEALTHY CHILDREN!
    Personally, I would not care what gender my children are, and if I was hoping to having an opposite gender child from the children I already had, there are MANY FOSTER children DYING to have a home, so that I could adopt the daughter I always wanted. 
    Have never been the kind of woman who wanted children of one gender over another.  If I did not struggle with my health issues and low income, I would have FOSTERED TO ADOPTION (which I think ALL adoptions should be this way) transgender children, especially if I was in a solid, healthy, stable relationship.
    Also, I STRONGLY BELIEVE transgendered children and homosexual children are that way due to ORGANIC reasons, having nothing to do with child rearing or their home life.  Not only that, I do not believe ADULT EXPERIENCES cause transgender and homosexual issues.
    The bottom line, Mike, is that your mother is causing her own misery!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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