MonicaPz

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About MonicaPz

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  • Birthday 01/19/1958

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Beacon NY
  • Interests Am a CG Lesbian with an open mind. Have had many TG friends when I lived in Florida. Exploring art. Enjoy coffee houses with live music. Visit museums and art galleries. Am on disability, using a cane. Sedate but have an active mind.

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  1. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Post Operation Thrills   

    Dear Michele,
    You were wise to bring many sanitary napkins with you to the hospital.  Also recommend women bring their own Chux pads to protect them from overflow onto their bedding.
    Am looking forward to the time when transwomen can adopt.  Cisgender Lesbians and Gaymales have an excellent record when it comes to having children.  Not many cisgender Straight males have had children, but the few who do, have an excellent track record.  Looking forward to when transwomen can adopt children.  Am sure transmen will also have an excellent track record when adopting or having children.  There are so many children waiting to be adopted!  Please don't give up hope.
    Hoping you continue healing.  Am a cancer survivor of 17 years myself (uterine cancer).
    Sending love and prayers your way.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
     
     
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  2. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Fond Farewell   

    Dear Charl,
    Your cooking on Instagram looks DELICIOUS!
    Yours truly,
    Monica
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  3. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: A Fond Farewell   

    Dear Charl,
    I, too, click "like this," for the same reasons that Emma stated.
    Really enjoy hearing from women with your talents, and I will miss you.  Hope you return soon.
    Yours truly,
    Monica
     
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  4. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Living on hope of vacation.   

    Dear Bree,
    Am so sorry to hear that your Dad won't take responsibility for his dogs' behavior.  Sadly, in our society, dogs are blamed for bad behavior, when mostly it is the owners' fault.
    Yours,
    Monica
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  5. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: New Neighbor story. Short, but this is my weird life.   

    Bree,
    Am so sorry about the loss of your cat.
    Monica
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  6. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: More Clarity   

    Dear Mike and Emma,
    Often parents (both mothers and fathers) are disappointed with a child for any number of reasons:  the "wrong" sex, not being good looking enough, not being smart enough, being unplanned (unwanted) and not being athletic enough, among MANY OTHER reasons.  Children, sooner or later, pick up on not being fully accepted.
    Strongly feel there should be premarital classes and parenting classes required before marriage and having children, dealing with these issues and more. 
    Feel that most, if not all, child abuse emanates from unmet expectations of parents!
    Yours,
    Monica
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  7. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: More Clarity   

    Dear Mike,
    Am sorry to hear that your mother can not accept that she has TWO sons, and NO DAUGHTERS.  Wish she was like me, in that she would rejoice on having HEALTHY CHILDREN!
    Personally, I would not care what gender my children are, and if I was hoping to having an opposite gender child from the children I already had, there are MANY FOSTER children DYING to have a home, so that I could adopt the daughter I always wanted. 
    Have never been the kind of woman who wanted children of one gender over another.  If I did not struggle with my health issues and low income, I would have FOSTERED TO ADOPTION (which I think ALL adoptions should be this way) transgender children, especially if I was in a solid, healthy, stable relationship.
    Also, I STRONGLY BELIEVE transgendered children and homosexual children are that way due to ORGANIC reasons, having nothing to do with child rearing or their home life.  Not only that, I do not believe ADULT EXPERIENCES cause transgender and homosexual issues.
    The bottom line, Mike, is that your mother is causing her own misery!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  8. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: WIsh me luck - Youtube Hair Idiocy. :)   

    Bree, I am considering changing my hairstyle (cut) myself!
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  9. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Sometimes people make me sad.   

    Dear Bree,
    In my small town, I have had been verbally attacked in a RESTAURANT when my brother and his wife took me out to dinner at a higher end restaurant to celebrate my birthday a year ago.  He was accompanied by his family.  Would have called him on it, except I was accompanied by my Straight homophobic family.
    A month ago, when a Lesbian friend and I went to a diner, I had a man "stare me down," and I gently but firmly called him on it.  He was accompanied by three women.
    Frankly, both of these ***holes were cowards as they apparently needed the "support" of their family and friends to insult me.  This never happened to me before, and I believe it is directly related to today's political climate.
    Didn't know either of these men from Adam.  Personally, if I were in their party, that behavior would be a "deal breaker" for any continued friendship or dating! 
    Yours,
    Monica
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  10. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Sometimes people make me sad.   

    Dear Bree and Emma,
    Just happens today (Sunday, February 19th), I worked with my compact digital camera to attempt to take some still photographs of myself, and they came out horribly.  (This is for a Lesbian Internet dating website).  Also, they wanted a five minute video of me, speaking of my likes and dislikes in a partner, and I didn't even go there!
    Have no trouble writing to women who have no picture, as I care about the woman's heart and character.  The only thing about looks that might bother me is when a woman is overly obese (she is 200 or more pounds heavier than me) or she doesn't care for herself (unkempt).
    Both of you are among my favorite people here.  Am grateful to have Internet friends, but I have to have face to face friends, too.  Unfortunately, I live in a small city where people generally are slow to become friends but are quick to hate.
    Am going to the Fantasia Gender Conference in the hope of making good friends, and if I am lucky, meeting the love of my life.  Will be honest with you, I prefer transwomen or cisgender women who are trans allies to cisgender women.
    Yours,
    Monica
     
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  11. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Judy's Transformaton   

    Bree,
    Piscataway, NJ, is the international headquarters of the Institute of Electrical and Electronic Engineers (IEEE).
    Monica
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  12. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: Forum subject   

    Dear Judy,
    There is a wonderful FREE dating website, where I made GREAT Internet friends, called www.TGDating.com, not related to TGGuide.
    Also, you may want to consider www.meetup.com, where I am starting a social/activity group for Lesbians in my home town.
    Please don't give up on TGGuide, as I have made MANY GREAT friends here!
    Think there are some members of TGGuide who live in New Jersey.  You may want to think in terms of the "northeast."
    Focus on friends first, and then you may find a lover.
    Consider joining a Gender Conference.  Am attending this Fall's Fantasia Fair.  There may be gender support groups within an hour or two from where you live.
    Good luck!
    Yours,
    Monica
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  13. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Anniversary   

    Dear Nikki,
    Think VERY FEW find true love from their first relationship.
    This is why I encourage group dating in junior high school (ages 14 to 16) and one on one dating (celibate - although I know it is hard to do!) in high school.
    The human brain is not fully mature until age 25.
    Sadly, I see a lot of heart break in college.  
    Read one of your recent posts, and even I thought you two were separating, and, boy, am I glad I was wrong.
    Always encourage women and, yes, Straight people to be slow to divorce.  Think separation (does not mean permission to have affairs) is a good idea, as long as a start and end date is mutually agreed on in advance, 
    Am so glad you two are OK!
    Yours,
    Monica
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  14. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Unexpected and Unwelcome News.   

    Dear Bree,
    Am so sorry to hear about Nikki's therapist.  Jim Fixx, the man who started the running craze, who not only exercised regularly, but had a healthy diet, dropped dead on a running trail at age 42.  
    Don't know if Nikki's therapist shared an office with another therapist or group of therapists, but I would look among the therapist's co-therapists as Nikki's future therapist, because doctors usually share an office with other doctors with similar beliefs and values.
    If Nikki's therapist practiced alone (as more doctors tend to do lately), then I would try to contact the receptionist or nurse for a recommendation, if there is staff still working in the office (at least briefly, as part of shutting down the office).
    May I suggest you and Nikki network among transgender people in your town or county (even people you know here in TGGuide) and ask if they can make referrals.
    Yours,
    Monica
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  15. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: I'm 45 today.   

    Hope Nikki's interview goes well and results in a job!
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