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About MonicaPz

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  • Birthday 01/19/1958

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    Beacon NY
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    Am a CG Lesbian with an open mind. Have had many TG friends when I lived in Florida. Exploring art. Enjoy coffee houses with live music. Visit museums and art galleries. Am on disability, using a cane. Sedate but have an active mind.

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  1. MonicaPz

    Still alive!

    Bree, I am so glad you're back!
  2. MonicaPz

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Dear Emma, My mindset is like that of a 40 year old, but my body tells me different. It is like a conflict. It might have to do with that I live in a senior apartment complex. Saw your picture with your friends, and I feel I would fit in with that crowd! Your friend, Monica
  3. MonicaPz

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Looking back, I accepted my birthdays quite happily and proudly except for the last year before the decade turned and the first year of the new decade. For instance, I grieved turning 19, as I knew this was the last year I could call myself a teenager, and grieved a little more at 20, as I knew I was not only no longer a teenager, but never will be again. This happened at ages 29 and 30, as I knew I was leaving "young adulthood" behind. Again, at ages 39 and 40, I knew I was definitely middle aged. At 50, I realized I was medically a senior. And now, at 59 turning to 60, I definitely was a senior! Sometimes, I am unexpectedly reminded that I am getting older, such as the time I visited a beautiful library in downtown Brooklyn, that was filled with young people. Finally I found a seat, among a large group of teenagers, and I settled down to my work. Noticed adults pacing up and down between the tables. Finally I got up and asked the librarian if it was OK to sit where I was, and she answered that I was sitting among high school students taking their SAT's! The adults walking around them where proctors! Apologized, and moved my stuff. This scene reminded me so much of myself when I was their age, and how different I am now to what I was then. Somehow, I seem to see my life by decades. 0 - 10 Child 10 - 20 Preteen and teen 20 - 30 Young adult 30 - 40 Young middle-aged 40 - 50 Older middle-aged 50 - 60 Young senior Interestingly, the last few years I dream about being 18 - 22 years old and not using mobility aids (a cane)! In my case, I feel like in my early 40's, except when I am reminded that I am 60 when I look in the mirror or notice I suffer more aches and pains than in the past. Recently I had what I call, "The Linear Dream." At the time I was 58. There was a marked linear line, marked off by feet. At the other end of the linear line, was my two year old great niece, standing, facing me, at the two foot mark. In my case, I was at the sixty foot mark, having stepped forward to the fifty-eight foot mark, as I was fifty-eight years old. Know the dream was about age, but, beyond that, I do not know what it means. Somehow, I feel more comfortable about aging, when I think in terms of "the circle of life," rather than linearly. Here are some of the changes I have observed in myself due to aging: Fear of being "out of date." Fear of being alone (dying alone). Don't have as much a sense of purpose as I used to. Can't be as much "hands on" as I used to (accepting physical projects) More "word finding" difficulties. Having trouble with spelling and grammar. Chronic pain. Can't run. Less balance. Feel "underfoot" by society at large. More spiritual. Less eye/hand coordination. Difficulty learning new material. Feel less confident in finding a partner. Don't feel needed by my family. Can't walk far. Difficulty hearing with background noise. Intermittent tremor. Greater difficulty losing weight and keeping it off. Can't see as well, requiring a magnifier as well as glasses. Dry and thinning skin. Dry scalp and hair falling out at the scalp, as well as thinning and finer hair (don't mention the gray!) "Age spots." Dry mouth and eyes. Easy bruising. May I ask how you have coped with aging?
  4. MonicaPz


    Dear Emma, You girls look great! Also, you look like you really fit in, as in, say, "one of the girls!" Monica
  5. MonicaPz

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Hazel Eyes, Thank you for a wonderful post. When I was growing up, there was terrible sibling rivalry, that spread out to the school, as I had the greatest problem with my youngest brother, who was only 14 months older. So much school bullying starts out in the home as sibling rivalry that is out of control! Yours truly, Monica
  6. MonicaPz


    We have a lot of minors and parents here, even though most don't post. What you have to say is important. Please reconsider. Am sure you will understand, now that we have explained ourselves more clearly.
  7. MonicaPz

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Emma, Lived in Tampa Bay, Florida, (Southeast) for 35 years, and I found them very accepting and welcoming, more so than Brooklyn, NY, and upstate NY (Northeast). Think this is because Tampa Bay, Florida, is very transitory and many people are self-employed, while in Brooklyn, NY, I lived in a mostly Orthodox Jewish community, which was very trans and homophobic, while upstate NY, most good employers are very trans and homophobic, (even when they say they're not) and if you valued your job, you are closeted. Fascinating how the US varies by region. Of course, it's a big country. Your friend, Monica
  8. Dear Friends, Beg EVERYONE to check out Mike's link. Be prepared to spend some time there . . . Your friend, Monica
  9. MonicaPz

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Friends, Highly recommend the National Geographic Discussion Guide for Teachers and Parents and the January 2017 Special Issue of National Geographic Magazine on the Shifting Landscape of Gender to EVERYONE! Also, please check out Emma's links on the Megyn Kelly TODAY Gender Cool Project. Thank you, Emma, for bringing this to our attention. Yours truly, Monica
  10. Dear Hazel Eyes, Usually, a woman who wears a men's size shoe, wears a women's size shoe, two sizes larger. For example, I wear a women's size 11 1/2 and a men's size 9 1/2. Am a cisgender woman who wears men's Air Nike 360's because of arthritis in my feet. Yours truly, Monica
  11. MonicaPz

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Christy, Your advice is spot-on, but I meant YouTube for the parents, NOT the children. Am very sorry I did not make this more clear. Yours truly, Monica
  12. MonicaPz

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Jeff, May I add to Emma's and Mike's excellent comments that there are excellent stories on YouTube, if you would go to www.YouTube.com, and Google, "Transgender Children." There you will find some excellent stories about children who are transgender and their parents. Also, there is a PBS channel that has some excellent programming on this topic, called World Channel. Their website is www.WorldChannel.org. Please stay in touch and feel free to ask questions. We are here for you. Yours truly, Monica
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    Dear Christy, Have experienced mild PTSD (diagnosed by a psychiatrist) because I almost was homeless in NYC six years ago. Was given 3 weeks notice and every day I was looking at rooms but they were all filthy in horrible overcrowded conditions. This was precipitated by the father of the autistic man I was caring for suddenly died and his elderly mother wanted to care for him. Also, I was having serious back trouble. Also, as a cisgender Lesbian woman who did a lot of babysitting growing up, I had the opportunity to observe young children, both boys and girls, experimenting with dressing/acting as the opposite sex. Rolled with it, and allowed them to do it, although some of the parents weren't too happy about it, but my hunch was good, because they did it once or twice, and moved on to other interests. By the way, all these children turned out to be cisgender and heterosexual. Must confess I explored it myself (I was jealous that my brothers could pee standing up!) and, like the children I babysat for, soon moved on to other interests. Was a "tomboy," but I feel this had little to do with me being a Lesbian, as I witnessed many heterosexual women have a "tomboy" phase growing up. Your friend, Monica
  14. MonicaPz

    The Talk.

    Dear Christy and MichelleLea, Think what Christy is describing is going through her second adolescence, this time as a woman. Your friend, Monica
  15. MonicaPz

    New Beginnings

    Dear MichelleLea, Looking back in my life, one of the jobs I was best at, I really didn't enjoy (bookkeeping). Interestingly, despite that, I seemed to enjoy the company of bookkeepers. Am very detail oriented. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you explore career options. Yours truly, Monica