MonicaPz

Dear Jennifer, I thank G_D I have no children or grand children, and that my nieces.nephews and great nieces/nephews have avoided this rubbish! New York State has avoided this but Florida (where I got my high school junior and senior classes and university degree) has surely gone downhill . . . Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

Jennifer, whatever you do, don't make contact!

Dear Jennifer, Sometimes suddenly passing away is marked by family/friends/lovers (ex's included) dreaming and thinking about them. Her spirit may be trying to contact you to say they are sorry for hurting you, even if it's long ago. They may have harmed many people so they might be contacting each to apologize. My take, anyways. Try to forgive them and tell them to go towards the light. Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

Dear Jennifer, If you met your ex from 20 years ago today, you would be very different people. It would be highly unlikely you would be friends, much less lovers. Her cheating on you shows there is much to be desired about her character. Be grateful that you have a woman who loves you for you! Your friend, Monica

Dear MaryEllen, I agree 💯 👍 percent! I think every school and house of worship should have well trained armed security!! I am 65 and I am amazed what the world has come to. My parents would have spun in their graves!!! Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

Dear Jennifer, School shootings are a daily occurrence! The US has more school shootings than any other country in the world. I don't know what the answer is, but I would probably homeschool my children or raise them overseas if I had children. Yours truly, Monica

Dear More, Emma and Jessica, Please consider the Lesbian community. More, your wife should be open-minded about the Lesbian community. They have a lot of activities. I strongly suggest looking into Lesbian Connection Magazine. Also, Moe, since you have a wife, may I suggest you get active in transgender conferences. They often have significant other (SO) support groups. I am a cisgender mid-butch Lesbian, and the love of my life was a mid-femme transgender Lesbian. Don't give up! Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

Dear Emma, I am sure transgenderism is 100% organic, with no psychosocial cause. When looking for a partner, you want to find a woman who complements you, as well as help you fulfill your needs as a woman. It also goes in the reverse direction, too, in that you want to seek to validate your partner. Your friend, Monica

Girls, a lot of women like to hunt. As for me, I have a "Bambi Complex"! LOL!!

Dear Jessica, There are good and badly behaved people in all sectors of life. Sadly, recently I had to jettison two transgender women and the mother of a trans man because they were abusive to me, thinking I was vulnerable and would take it with a smile. Think of it as that we are all human and have to be judged individually. You may be surprised who accepts you and who doesn't. Don't assume you will be accepted just because you share some characteristic. Your friend, Monica

Jessica, I knew I was Lesbian (and an empath since four years old - although it took decades for me to find the right words. I am so happy you found closure, as I have! Your friend, Monica

Mike, I recently ordered transgender flag pull-apart cupcakes for a group of my transgender and allies friends along with rainbow jello cups. I'm sure your mother would have loved the party! LOL!! On a serious note, your mother and father should rejoice they have a healthy, well put together son! It saddens me when parents have expectations for what their children are going to be. My mother kept trying for a girl, only to get me, as her only daughter, when she wanted a Shirley Temple lookalike. Sadly, we create our own misery . . . Your friend, Monica

Dear Jennifer, Please seek out a transgender competent therapist, I beg you. Yours truly, Monica

Jennifer, we all go through periods where we "hate" ourselves. Maybe a more accurate word is disappointment and disillusionment . . . It' OK to have these feelings briefly, but our health suffers when we hate ourselves. This, unfortunately, is common in today's society, because we feel we have to earn love by productivity. That's not love - that's acceptance. Jennifer, your Higher Power loves you for exactly what you're are at every phase of your life. Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

Dear Mike, Participated in some The Day of Remembrance (TDOR) events, and the sad truth is that transgender murders are at an all-time high (male and female). Friends even warned me that allies are at risk. It breaks my heart there's so much hate in the world. Presently, I am advocating for a Black woman (Straight cisgender) who is being wrongfully accused of something she hasn't done. Mike, you're the brother I never had. I love you, and I thank you for being an advocate for the transgender community and a good son (and brother?) Stay safe. Gratefully yours, Monica