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  1. UsernameOptional

    Disparity & Dispassion

    My girlfriend, a cisgender woman, has become my champion over the years. And, though I hate to admit it was even necessary, she has taught me to be more accepting of some things. Yes [for those of you new to this board], despite being trans, despite being a part of the TGLB community, I have at times in the past expressed a few intolerances. I'm not perfect by any means...but I believe she's successfully changed (for the better) my view on some things. Anywhoooooo... quite often she runs across articles online that touch her deeply, or that she believes I need to read, or that she thinks I may want to post here at TGG. A few days ago, she gave me a link to an article about a trans man that had been shot and killed in Atlanta, GA. I'm sure that there were several reasons: 1) There's never much out there about trans men 2) It's not often we hear about a trans man being killed - this is exacerbated by the fact that too often trans people are misgendered by law enforcement, media, unaccepting family, etc. 3) And of course... her boyfriend - your's truly - is a trans man 😎 I read the article with the usual sadness. I guess we are all either way too familiar with that sadness, or have become hardened to it because there are just so many trans people killed throughout the world. Unfortunately, the US ranks third, behind only Brazil and Mexico in the murders of transgender people. Not exactly something to brag about, and is most certainly contradictory of a country that likes to boast of such great civil and human rights, and goes about condemning other countries with poor civil and human rights. Talk about the pot calling the kettles black! But I digress... Though I don't often do it, after I read the article, I scrolled down to the comments section. There was, and still is as of the writing of this blog entry, only one comment, "I've often wondered why humans, both (male and female), feel so morally charged when It comes to MTF transgenders, but not FTM transgenders. This is sad what did happen to this person." -- Leois Stellar It's not often that people see, realize or admit how the vast disparity between what society thinks of males/females, men/women, and the high importance placed on being male, seemingly dismisses trans men altogther. To the point that there are many cisgender people do not even know or think we exist, and transgender women who believe that those labelled female at birth cannot really be transsexual, and so dismiss our existence. The only thing that matters is that society believes a person who was labelled at birth as male, to be somehow sadly and desperately broken inside for [him] to "want to be <GASP!!> a woman." And if they do recogize that trans men exist, it's almost as if they do not care - afterall, we were not born male and so, nothing was lost. And that there is still only one comment on that article, speaks loud and clear to society's dispassion towards trans men. The disparity and dispassion, though from a different angle, exists even in the community...
  2. UsernameOptional

    Technical help needed in posting photos

    Never indicated the problem was uploading to your computer... I was just trying to find a way around the issue - whatever it may be. There is no [general] issue uploading to this forum - members have uploaded images to the member gallery as recent at 28 April... I uploaded an image to a post just this past week. This is why I asked for as much info as possible. --Are you using a cable between the Nikon and your computer? --Does the Nikon require any special software or program in order to be connected to your computer (some phones or providers used to require such) --Are you getting any error messages when the upload fails? NOTE: It's possible there may be a communication problem between the Nikon and your computer In the editor when creating a new thread, or replying to a post in an existing thread, look down in the bottom left corner -
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    I'm confused about who I want to be

    Hi Gracie.. and welcome to TG Guide. Just to add to what Emma wrote... and it has to do with the title of your post, "I'm confused about who I want to be." Something that might help you begin to figure it out... it's not who you want to be, but what you are. You may want to be an engineer, or a model, or a doctor. But you are a boy, or you are a girl, or you are both or neither. Your gender identity is not what you want, it is what you are. Unfortunately, our identity doesn't always match the body parts.. See what I'm saying?
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    Message Forum Upgrade

    LOLOL... you GO, girl!!
  5. UsernameOptional

    The "New" Friendship

    Some believe all friendships must be face-to-face relationships, and that online relationships cannot be formed, do not exist, or are fake. And I'm going to say that most of the people who feel that way are, "of a certain age" or older. I think it is people from older generations who think online relationships are empty. When I was younger, and long before the internet, some people had "pen pals." Since I have no kids, I cannot say whether pen pals is a thing anymore or not. Some people have had life-long pen pals, and have never met in person. In order for such relationships to last, I would think that the people involved would have had to become friends of some sort. Today, we have the internet. I see this as being no different than exchanging letters with someone. And in fact, I believe friendships formed prior to any face-to-face meeting (IF one ever occurs) can sometimes form quickly and be stronger, because in some cases, the people involved get to actually know the person - not what they look like or where they come from. For many, if not most or all, the possibility of relationships are too often determined/decided on what a person looks like. I believe that most people will never know how many truly good, close, and potentially life-time friendships they could have had simply because they ignored someone (in "real time") because of what they looked like. As for it being lonely at the top... I think it depends on the people involved. CO-WORKERS (or more precisely, former co-workers) If a person's friends are also co-workers, then yeah, I agree - those friends will dwindle and fall away as a person's career advances. I can say this from experience - I retired as a supervisor. While the experience was good, if I had to do it over, I think I would not again go after a supervisory position. Quite often, the higher up the food chain, the less you are trusted. Employees also have a tendancy to be unsure what they should or shouldn't say in your presence. Some employess may believe that they no longer have anything in common with their former co-worker. There are probably a list of reason as long as you arm as to why a person loses co-worker friends once that person becomes a part of management. The old friends are sometimes replaced by those in same/similar/comparable positions. And then of course... some companies discourage friendships between certain positions. NON-CO-WORKERS However, I don't see why a person would lose that many friends when those friends have nothing to do with the company/business where you work. Though I'm sure it's possible there's alway the one that harbours the same kinds of attitudes as a co-worker. But I would think such people would be encountered less. -Michael
  6. UsernameOptional

    Message Forum Upgrade

    I tried the "Leaderboard" link just now and was about post that I replicated the issue. But about the time I was going to scroll down to create a reply... the page loaded. Could be it's just a delay. Try again and see if it still doesn't load.
  7. UsernameOptional

    Technical help needed in posting photos

    I am unfamiliar with either model of camera - I still have a Sony FD100 that accomodated both a memory card AND floppy disk. But even as old as that camera is, all I have to do is connect the camera via USB cable or put the memory card in one of the card slots on the computer. Without knowing every step you are taking (from the time you connect a camera to your computer to the last step, which would be clikking the plus sign [+] to add the image to a post), or being able to lay hands on either and tinker with them...there would be no way I could say what the problem may be. Also in play could be your operating system. So far...I've uploaded images from my computer without issue. Have you tried to upload the images to your computer for storage on that device... and then upload to a post or the forum gallery? That could be a possible solution. Hopefully if anyone else has had issues uploading images they will post on this thread. We would need as much info as possible from everyone to try to figure out if there are any commonalities or someone happens to note a known issue, and go from there. Occasionally we encounter a glitch that affects only one person, which in such cases, trying to ferret out the problem is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. -Michael
  8. UsernameOptional

    Like Button/Bar

    The "likes" sorta blew my mind at first - I kept seeing these laughing smileys, with captions, "haha." Some sorta seemed inappropriate...but I think that some readers might believe that only those icons that pop out when you hover over the heart are applicable. So in case anyone didn't know, in the new "like" bar... even the heart - which simply means you like the post - can be clikked on. -Mike
  9. Wow... I thought this was settled. But I guess the WHO doesn't subscribe to the DSM. GEEZ!!! But yeah, sure hope this changes.
  10. If this can happen in the case of a gay man...it can happen in the case of a transgender man or woman.... Dan Avery 4/26/2018 "The two men played for several hours before Miller says he left and headed toward his truck. But when he realized he forgot his glasses and returned to the house, Spencer allegedly reached in for a kiss. “Hold it, I’m not a gay person,” Miller he allegedly told Spencer." --newnownext.com Texas Man Successfully Uses “Gay Panic” Defense To Avoid Prison Sentence
  11. ​Yup... I'm tellin' ya - as a country, we're moving backwards. Our only hope is that more states will become more inclusive, and put an end to bigot laws. -Mike
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    Changing Screen Name

    No Problem Judy. Just let me know when so there will be no problem in you signing in. -Mike
  13. January 20, 2018 "Instead, the sweeping move, announced by the Department of Health and Human Services, appears to open the way for a doctor or nurse to turn away a transgender individual with a broken arm — for no other reason than by their gender identity." -- bostonglobe.com A new rule allows discrimination against transgender individuals for medical care
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    No Chat For You!

    ​Christy - Profiles/accounts could not be migrated. If you haven't already made it there... yes, you must re-register... https://tgguide.com/transgender-chat/ -Michael
  15. UsernameOptional

    No Chat For You!

    Hiya Squirrely .... Thought I saw you in chat a few days ago... so I guess you finally made it. I don't look in on the blogs too often, otherwise I'd have seen your blog for help with chat. See ya on the flip side... Michael
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    how to enter vchat room

    Stephanii - The old Addon Chat is no longer in use... the program went belly up and we could get no support. Our new chat platform is [temporarily] a ChatWee software. You can get to chat via https://tgguide.com/transgender-chat/ You will have to re-register as the old profiles/accounts were not/could not be migrated. Once the page linked above loads, a log in box will appear in the bottom right corner of your display. In there you will register and/or log in -Michael P.S. I'm not sure what you mean by "vchat," but if the "V" is for "voice," we never had a voice chat.
  17. The Christian Takeover of the U.S. Military - Commentary By Amanda Kerri | March 29 2018 12:54 PM EDT "Pence and his friends at the Family Research Council, pushing the ban that the military was against, are part of an evangelical movement that sees this as a regained opportunity to carry out their “Great Commission.” Trump is in all likelihood entirely apathetic about who can serve but feels pressure to appease his eager evangelicals, who have all but come to see him as little more than a useful idiot and a signature for their policies so that he can maintain a solid support base." --advocate.com
  18. Trump Sticking With Trans Military Ban By Trudy Ring | March 23 2018 9:35 PM EDT - Updated March 24 2018 2:35 PM EDT "Because of those court injunctions, the memo issued by Trump will have no immediate effect, according to LGBT organizations involved in the legal fight against the ban. And earlier in the day, a Defense Department spokesman told the Washington Blade that the department would obey the court orders and retain trans troops no matter what Trump announced." -- advocate.com
  19. Lawyers Won't Say Who Trump 'Consulted' on Trans Military Ban By Trudy Ring | March 23 2018 2:18 PM EDT "“The government has said that it simply will not provide information about the process that led to the president’s Twitter ban,” Borelli continued. “As the government well understands, this means that it will not be able to rely on that information to help defend the ban, which exposes a fatal flaw in their position: There is no justification for this discrimination. The government isn’t willing to pull back the curtain, because there’s nothing behind it.” It’s “yet one more reason for the court to permanently enjoin the ban,” she said." -- advocate.com
  20. Good for Pakistan. Seems one more country moving forward while the U.S. is steadily sliding BACKWARDS.
  21. So... sounds to me this leaves two situations - 1. Don't ask, don't tell, or 2. A person can be trans as long as s/he doesn't seek to transition, and will have to tolerate being treated according to his/her birth sex Considering it would probably be best not to tell anyone you are trans, that means whatever this watered-down policy is will mean absolutely nothing. Circle right back around to DADT. Geez... even gay and lesbian troops don't have to deal with that anymore. See related: Judge blocks enforcement of Trump's transgender military ban
  22. "In the end it all comes down to what is cheaper, cost of running the Court fees than settle cheaper long term cost. "And it wasn't about morals but cost at the end of day." --cross2play Sadly, at least on the part of the school system, this is probably too true. They couldn't care less about the student and his rights, emotional well-being, or anything related to being transgender.
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    Site Upgrades

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  24. In at least two places in the country, people have beat out homophobes, haters, and just run-of-the-mill sheeple - A woman in VA wins an election over an incumbent homophobe who brags about being Virginia's "chief homophobe," and "earlier this year introduced a 'bathroom bill' that died in committee." That woman, Danica Roem, an openly transgender democrat and local journalist. AND, wait for it --- THERE'S MORE.... In Minneapolis, Andrea Jenkins won in a race for City Council, representing the city's Eighth Ward. She was endorsed by the Minneapolis Star Tribune, and she beat out three other candidates for the seat. She was also endorsed by the Democratic-Farmer-Labor Party. Also, two other TGLB people are running for seats in Minneapolis - Phillipe Cunningham (trans man) and Jillia Pessenda (cisgender lesbian). The results of their races were not in a the posting of this news.