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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trump moves to ban most transgender people from serving in military   

    So... sounds to me this leaves two situations -
    1.  Don't ask, don't tell, or
    2.  A person can be trans as long as s/he doesn't seek to transition, and will have to tolerate being treated according to his/her birth sex
    Considering it would probably be best not to tell anyone you are trans, that means whatever this watered-down policy is will mean absolutely nothing.   Circle right back around to DADT.  Geez... even gay and lesbian troops don't have to deal with that anymore.
    See related:  Judge blocks enforcement of Trump's transgender military ban
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender Student’s Discrimination Suit Is Settled for $800,000   

    "In the end it all comes down to what is cheaper,  cost of running the Court fees than settle cheaper long term cost. 
    "And it wasn't about morals but cost at the end of day."   --cross2play
    Sadly, at least on the part of the school system, this is probably too true.  They couldn't care less about the student and his rights, emotional well-being, or anything related to being transgender.
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Site Upgrades   

    Upgrades mentioned in this thread may no longer be relevant as newer upgrades may have been since applied, therefore this thread has been closed.  Please begin another thread if you experience any issues so that they may be better addressed.
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender wrestler Mack Beggs is booed after second straight state title win   

    More on Beggs here...   Transgender boy 2 wins away from girls state wrestling title
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic In historic 1st, transgender inmate wins transfer to women's prison   

    At least one country on the North American continent is moving FORWARD.
    Kudos to the powers-that-be in this situation.  I hope this will make a bad situation a little better to deal with for Ms. Aubee.
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  6. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry FTM and masculinity   

    Good advise from two very wise ladies.
    Welcome to TG Guide.
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  7. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Pinterest and other social media   

    I can't help but think that someone "reported" your Pinterest boards...  someone so et up with bigotry and transphobia they felt it was their duty (and god-given right    ) to make sure that people like us don't destroy their little corner of the internet and don't infect the "normal people."    Happens on FB quite a bit - every time I turn around my g/f is telling me about gay men who have been bounced.   I see no reason to believe that Pinterest isn't the same.  I agree with Emma - write (snail mail) those people and [nicely] ask for an explanation.
    ::: grumbles :::
    Just one more reason I don't do social media....
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New Rule Allows Discrimination   

    "I wonder if a trans doctor refused to care for an anti-lgbt patient if they would also find protection under this law"  -- Bree
    You're probably right - it's likely the doctor wouldn't have a leg to stand on.  But people should consider this.  This is what happened to the late Robert Eads - he died of ovarian cancer because no [cisgender] doctor would treat him.  
    Current events are no doubt rolling back advancements left and right.  It's sad that Drumpf's hatred of our previous president is so blinding, that he's willing (and without losing any sleep - obviously) to sacrifice the safety and well-being of so many people.  And PROUD of what he's doing, to boot!
    It was apparently made illegal under Obama-care to discriminate against trans patients in federally funded healthcare programs... but is that still the case now with this "new rule?"
    Here's an article from 2012 recounting several cases where care was either abruptly stopped or flat out denied when it was discovered that the patients were transgender.  And in the case of the late Jay Kallio, a diagnosis of breast cancer was kept from him due to transphobia, hatred, bigotry, ignorance.  Yes, you read that right - HE WAS NOT TOLD HE HAD CANCER!!
    We could be returning to just such an era...
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  9. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Rights & Political Activism   

    New Rule Allows Discrimination
    January 20, 2018
    "Instead, the sweeping move, announced by the Department of Health and Human Services, appears to open the way for a doctor or nurse to turn away a transgender individual with a broken arm — for no other reason than by their gender identity."  --
    A new rule allows discrimination against transgender individuals for medical care
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  10. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Rights & Political Activism   

    Trans and Cis
    I wasn't sure which forum to put this in, but decided on this one since labels and privileges have a lot to do in affecting our rights.....
    By Mark Peters January 12, 2018
    "Many conservative voices don’t care for the terms either. Tina Trent recently declared “I am a woman, not a cisgender” in the Canada Free Press. “Unlike all the shiny, happy, ‘non-binary’ sexual identities popping up in human resources training manuals and court dockets these days, calling someone ‘cisgender’ is, by design, a pejorative,” she wrote. “Think of it this way: in the world of gender politics, “cisgender” is the new white — white privilege, that is.”"
    Leveling the field between trans and cis
    Quite obvious Trent doesn't like being labled.  Also appears she doesn't like it being thrown in her face that she is privileged...but whether she likes it or not, unless she works toward, fights for, or supports 100% inclusion of ALL people, she is a part of the problem, and thus is a part of that privileged group.  It is her privileged status that causes her to dislike being "labelled."  
    As has been the history at least this country (US)... only those considered "less than" are labelled.  Those old enough have only to think back to a time when news media always named a person's race/ethnicity in reporting if the crime was so much worse than had it been committed by a white person.  -DML
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year   

    ​You have a point there, Lori. I never thought about the situation from that angle.  So if that was the case, then in a somewhat indirect way, perhaps being trans did have something to do with her death.
    Being back in chat, I see that objectification all the time, and also see that it is (or damn sure seems to be) at a higher degree - no doubt because, as you indicated, trans women apparently are thought of as disposable.  Bad part?  As much as it ticks me off when I see someone come into chat with that kind of attitude, I guess somewhere in the back of my mind, I didn't consider that could be the case here because they were a couple - and a married couple, at that.  But even among cisgender marriages, there are sometimes such issues.
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year   

    Hopefully that means one more entity is moving in the right direction - we need the support!
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender Student’s Discrimination Suit Is Settled for $800,000   

    ​That's sad.  Almost as disgusting as the bigotry and hatred in that city.
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic "The Art of Passing"   

    ​Hiya Ace -
    Yeah... there be many women here!  I guess over time, I've just gotten used to it.  It also helped that back when I first joined, there were several women that often made it a point to include what few guys were here in on the many discussions.
    Though the threads are old... don't forget - there is a FTM forum here on the TG Guide Board.  There's a lot of good reading there.  I think it's safe to say that most of it is still relevant today.
    Check it out
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  15. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender Student’s Discrimination Suit Is Settled for $800,000   

    It seems like we've heard other stories out of Kenosha... that city must REALLY have some SERIOUS phobias when it come to people of the TGLB community.
    That school put the boy thru four years of hell... he should have been awarded $800K for each year!
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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year   

    What a way to start the year.  Another sickening, unnecessary loss.  The only good part (if any part at all can be good), is that from the various articles I've read so far, it doesn't appear that being trans had anything to do with this tragedy.  
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  17. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    WA State BCs to Allow 3rd Gender Option
    Emanuella Grinberg, CNN | Updated 6:52 PM ET, Thu January 4, 2018
    "Sarah Kate Ellis, President and CEO of GLAAD, said a recent report from the LGBTQ advocacy group shows that 20% of millennials identify as LGBTQ, and more young people are rejecting traditional binaries."
    Washington state offers third gender option on birth certificates
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  18. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry And away we go!   

    Points 4 and 6 well-taken.  Thanks for explaining.
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  19. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry I Don't Care Much for Myself Tonight   

    Being a moderator just means we have to set an example, as in following the rules... stuff like that.  Doesn't mean we can't hurt, and come looking for someone to lean on.  The way I see it... our hurts and heartache ain't all our fault.  And it never will be until society changes for the better.
    Big hugs to you, Emma.  I'm glad you're feeling better. 
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  20. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry And away we go!   

    Hello TransFormation... and welcome to TG Guide.
    I'm usually pretty bad about welcoming new members - thank god the women around here take up the slack in that department.   But on occasion, a new member will come in with something that reels me in.
    This is a very open and welcoming board - mind you, it is not restricted to only those who are transgender or intersex.  Instead, we fly just about every flag imaginable - including the flags that cisgender and gay people walk under.  We include family, friend, ally and on occasion have even tolerated foe if it meant exposing truth, or trying to share enlightenment.  There has even been one member who was not trans, whom we later decided was simply using this board as a testing ground for a novel or something.
    All that said, I have to admit that I don't always read blog entries either.  Once again, I must be humbly and ever so grateful for some of the insatiable readers that roam these halls.  A person has to come up with a pretty catchy blog title for me to put on the brakes and stop in for a while and check things out.  I hope you take no offense as none is intended, but your username and Jackie Gleason-like proclamation caught my eye.
    Now to the meat of my introduction:
    1.  About half your entry is all about making sure we know you will give up no details about the woman of whom you speak.  I commend you on your respect to her status as trans.  I hope you will soon come to learn that respecting one's identity is the number one rule among trans and [and usually] among gay people.  We do not out anyone, and those who do become a kind of pariah.  What one chooses to share with us is wholey up to the individual.  We, of all people, on such a site, need no such castigation.
    2.  Perhaps in time you will learn that it's really not necessary to announce your sexual preference/orientation.  Before reading, "I am heterosexual," I had already assumed as much.  As a rule, the only people who assume they will be perceived as gay are those who harbour homophobic tendancies, and/or do not believe/respect 100% that a trans woman is a woman, or that a trans man is a man.
    3.  In that despite your privileged status as a straight, white man, you apparently ARE subjected to some degree of unacceptance - a Frenchman who is percieved to have turned his back on his people, his culture, his heritage in being English-educated.  Magnify whatever slights you have noted by 1,000 times, and you will then understand the great degree of unacceptance we endure 24/7/365.  I believe if you endured that level of unacceptance, your blog entry would no doubt have a very different tone.  Or at least reason for existence.
    4.  You are either clairvoyant or highly presumptuous in stating that no one here has ever heard of your books let alone read them, or never seen your blog.  I wonder why you believe this.  Do you believe trans people to be less intelligent?  Perhaps we cannot afford your books?  Have you determined what we are or are not interested in?
    5.  I'm not a woman....and I can't help but think I have an idea why she left you - the writing is, on the wall so-to-speak.  Just above, in your blog entry.  The answers are all there the way I see it.  My apologies in advance if I am being presumptuous.  Or wrong.  I've been known to find my own foot in my own mouth.
    6.  Or are you another come here looking for more fodder to fuel the writing juices?  After all, you do so bluntly comment how low readership is on this board.  Makes me wonder why you are REALLY here...
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  21. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Illinois to become second state to ban 'gay panic defense'   

    Sad to know that there are only two states.  Makes it appear that all other states consider it perfectly okay to for someone toi beat the crap out of, or kill a gay person - all the killer has to do is claim his freakin' homophobia kicked in and he panicked.
    I commend Illinois for having passed such legislation, but unless I'm not understanding all of that article, it's not clear to me if this new law applies to those who assault or kill trans people, also.  I hope it does.
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  22. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic HIV Among Transgender People   

    "There is so much work to be done for the transgender community."  -- Lori
    I'd say the workload has been increased exponentially considering the current political regime is tearing down everything achieved in the past years.  Meanwhile, those stats will probably worsen until things return to a more positive trend.
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  23. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Rights & Political Activism   

    CDC gets list of forbidden words: fetus, transgender, diversity
    Drumpf & his GOP continue their slow and intentional destruction of the advances made in the past few years ...
    Lena H. Sun and Juliet Eilperin December 15 at 6:53 PM
    The Trump administration is prohibiting officials at the nation’s top public health agency from using a list of seven words or phrases — including “fetus” and “transgender” — in any official documents being prepared for next year’s budget.
    CDC gets list of forbidden words: fetus, transgender, diversity
    "Kelly did not say why the words are being banned, according to the analyst, and told the group that she was merely relaying the information."  --
    They're banned because it would make discussion about those topics and topics affected by certain issues/illnesses/diseases difficult at best.  And without discussion, it gets pushed to the back burner and eventually forgotten.  After those topics are forgotten, the haters and bigots can sneak in and remove any rights and benefits they want to strip people of.
    This country is going to hell in a hand basket... and if yer not rich, white, heterosexual, cisgender, male and entitled, yer screwed.  We should all probably start practicing how to kiss our own butts "good-bye."  I guess I better start losing a little weight to make the feat a little easier.

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  24. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Rihanna wont use trans people marketing tool   

    Kudos to Rihanna.  I've commented a few times here around the board that I felt some were simply "going after" trans people to capture some sensational angle... and thereby making a rather nice payday for themselves.
    If Rihanna does employ a transgender person... just as she says it's not her business if a person is trans, it should also not matter to anyone else.  You either like her beauty products or you don't.   After all... is that not the market she's in - beauty products, not human grandstanding?
    Nice catch of an article, C2P.
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  25. UsernameOptional added a blog entry in Michael's Blog   

    Karma DOES Indeed SUCK!
    So, I've been here at my Mum's house long enough now that the time came to get my vehicle's license plate replaced.  I've got a new plate and now I blend in with the locals.   I've also been here long enough that my old driver's license was about to expire and I had to prepare for a new one.  Being that I was going to end up getting a license in a new state, I figured I'd go online and see what all would be required... what paperwork/documentation, or whatever, to prove I'm a legal citizen of the good ol' U.S of A.  While doing my homework, I discovered that I could actually start the process for getting a license - online.  Okay...that was cool.
    For getting a license for the first time in this state, you have to fill out an application and then go thru the list of required documentation and pick out the ones you are able to provide, or must find a way to obtain.  While filling out the application, the Devil crawled up on one shoulder, and David Michael crawled up on the other shoulder.  Being that most humans have only two shoulders, naturally, there was no place for that little Angel that likes to be across from the Devil to counteract any of his shenanigans... LOL.  The Devil and I were gonna get along juuuuuuuuuuuuuuuust fine.
    Anywho... I came upon two boxes - one for male and one for female.  There have been many a story about people who's driver's license had the wrong sex marker on them.  And of course, anyone can make a mistake...  so, I accidentally on purpose hit the box for male, 'cause, well, the idea of having to check female yet again, was distressful.  It's becoming more so, more and more.  I figured the hell with it - if anyone asks, I'll simply tell them I was in a hurry at the time, only half paying attention, an' obviously hit the wrong box.  <shrugs>
    The days were dwindling.  I had only about seven days left on the current license.  Reluctantly, I hauled my sorry butt to the DMV to get a new driver's license.  Armed with BC, marriage license, application number and current DL, I stood in line waiting for the next available agent.  Finally, a free agent.  I walked over and sat down, layed all my stuff on the counter, said "hello," and gave the lady my application number.  She pulled up my application and went to work.
    Now... this woman had three documents in front of her that clearly stated my birth sex.  I assumed she either didn't see the "M" on my application since she didn't question me, or she just took it upon herself to make the "correction."   I sat quietly while she got everything filled out and entered into the system.  She pulled a sheet of paper from her printer and advised me it was a temporary license and that I should keep it on me until I get the permanent one.  I forked over my money, she collected everything I had given her,  the temporary license, and handed it all to me saying that my permanent license would arrive in the mail within 15 days.  I thanked her, we wished each other a good day, and I left.
    A couple days later, I pulled my wallet out to get that temporary license - I had folded it up before I had even left the DMV parking lot, not wanting to see the information on it.  But then, I had to see what sex was on it - if it was on there at all since it was, after all, only a temporary license.  I slowly unfolded the paper, and then tried to hone in on where I thought the sex marker might be.

    MY GOD, SHE DIDN'T SEE IT!  And yeah - - it looked THAT glorious!  I thought my heart was gonna pound it's way straight thru my sternum.  I allowed myself a minute or two of sheer, unadulterated, child-like giddy excitement, then stifled it, and came back down to reality, believing there could be the possibility that between then and whenever the permanent license was created, someone might spot and "correct" that "M."  I re-folded the temporary license and put it back in my wallet.
    Just a few days later, the permanent license arrived in the mail.  I slowly opened it, bracing for the worst.  I fully expected to find a "corrected" license and a letter to announce/explain such.  Instead, an "M" nearly jumped off the card at me.  I was very happy.  Right or wrong, correct or incorrect, I was happy.  I didn't even care that the name and the sex marker contradicted each other.   I sat at the desk for a moment just looking at the license.  And then I spotted it.  That twit had entered my entire name... not just full first name, but full first name AND middle name - SPELLED OUT.  If there's anything I hate worse than my first [given] name, it's my middle [given] name.  And the bad part is... the application indicated that entry of a middle name or initial was optional, and all that was on the old license was an initial.  I surely wasn't expecting that!
    Karma. Freakin'. SUCKS!
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