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  2. Emilyruns

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    Dear Emily,

    Love your hair, dress and makeup.

    There are wonderful tutorials about makeup on YouTube. Search, "makeup tutorials," on YouTube. 

    May I make a suggestion? Consider having a hairstyle that includes bangs to the eyebrows. Think this will flatter your face. You can also search, "hairstyle tutorials," on YouTube, also.

    You have beautiful skin! As my dear mother, may her soul rest in peace, used to say, "moisturize, moisturize, moisturize"!

    This weekend has beautiful weather, and I hope everyone is getting out to enjoy it.

    My love and warm thoughts to you and your wife . . .

    Your friend,

    Monica

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  3. Emilyruns

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    Dear Emily,

    Hope you have a trustworthy relationship with your psychologist. Have they told you why they think you are bipolar? Have you considered getting a second opinion?

    It is common for those who are bipolar (as well as other illnesses) to be diagnosed late in life.

    If you are indeed bipolar, you will have to take medication under medical supervision. 

    Have known several friends of mine with bipolar respond beautifully to medication.

    Yours truly,

    Monica

  6. Dawn13

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    Dear Dawn,

    Now that I looked at my right and left hands again, I do notice an eighth of an inch to a quarter of an inch difference between the two fingers.

    Will put my hand on a piece of paper and trace my hand to be sure.

    Growing up, I always was a tomboy, but I also loved dressing up, especially for the holidays.

    Knew I liked girls romantically, since age four,  although I wouldn't know the word "Lesbian" for over a decade.

    My jury is still out by the finger business, although I wouldn't be surprised if this is proven true.

    Some could argue that being raised with all boys could have influenced my sexual orientation, but I am dead sure my sexual orientation is organic.

    Know that sometimes unrelated genes are passed on together. This is called linked genes.

    Yours truly,

    Monica 

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  11. Emilyruns

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    Dear Emily,

    The key words are "trustworthy friends" and "a few friends."

    In my opinion, coming out gradually, starting with a few of your most trustworthy and supportive friends, is best.

    Unfortunately, I wish I had this advice before coming out as a Lesbian. Listened to some poor advice and just jumped out, which was the worst thing I could do. Eventually, I recovered from my error.

    Your friend,

    Monica

     

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  12. Blackangel

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    Dear Jennifer and Emma,

    My father was a racist. It was funny - he didn't see Asians, indigenous people, Hispanics, etc. as Black, or people of color. 

    Confronted him as a child when he said the N word.

    Thanks to the TV series, "All in the Family," he was able to see himself and laugh at himself. Because of that show, he was able to look at himself and let go of racism.

    Am so proud of my father for letting go of racist attitudes!

    Your friend,

    Monica

  13. Emma

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    Dear Emma and Jessica,

    My mother, may God rest her soul, would give you a vote of confidence.

    Just now, I can hear her saying, "thank God Monica has made some quality friends, who can help her act and look more like a lady!"

    My dear mother was very worried who would give me guidance in her place.

    Gratefully yours,

    Monica

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  17. Blackangel

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    Dear Jennifer,

    This reminds me of a similar story, but the story ended happier. The man was a white supremacist and part of a white supremacist gang. He had tattoos all over him, mostly with the swastika.

    He not only apologized to the man he beat up, but he also volunteered to work with a Jewish anti-hate organization. He and the man he nearly killed give talks side by side. He had the tattoos removed and he has to watch his back from his former "friends."

    Is it possible that you could work with a Gay anti-hate organization?

    People need to learn the powerful lesson that people can change.

    Here's a story about a woman who changed:

    Am sorry, but the link no longer works. You will need to go to my Blog next to yours and access the link from there.

    The man you abused is caught up in his own inability to forgive. That is work he must do when he is ready.

    You need to forgive him for not forgiving you and you must forgive yourself. That doesn't mean punish yourself. But it means living the rest of your life doing everything you can to undo the hate. This means seeking out every anti-hate organization, and putting yourself in their service. They may want you to give talks in churches and schools.

    Hope this helps. Please let us know how it goes.

    Still your friend,

    Monica

     

  19. MichelleLea

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    Dear MichelleLea,

    Love your sketch of your kitchen.

    Yes, I, too, live a simple life. Make a game out of how to get the most out of life on the least money. Keep a budget.

    Today, my girlfriend and I shopped at ShopRite. We were mistaken by the cashier for being sisters. Really appreciate the hard work of the associates to keep the store clean and the shelves stocked.

    Saving money for my move to Philadelphia PA.

    Yes, it hurts to go bankrupt but it hurts even more to be chronically in debt.

    Your friend,

    Monica

  20. UsernameOptional

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    Dear MichelleLea,

    Am saddened that Walmart laid off its greeters. Most of them were seniors or disabled. Think Walmart will live to regret it.

    The store is so large, and when I need to pop in to pick up a couple of items (and a girlfriend of mine is waiting in the parking lot, expecting me to return in 15 minutes), they have been great in telling me where to pick up the items, and in what order!

    MichelleLea, I bet you're a great greeter, and an excellent asset to your store!

    Your friend,

    Monica

     

     

  25. UsernameOptional

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    Dear Mike, Emma and Dee,

    Mike, I live alone, making it easier, as well as I was always in the habit of stocking up and topping off every week. Learned that Scott's toilet paper is superior than Charmin Extra Strong Mega Rolls (virgin forest growth) in that it is not only cheaper (recycled paper), but that a roll of Scott's lasts 5 - 7 days per person, while a roll of Charmin last 2 - 3 days.

    Mike, have you considered food pantry? Presently, I have deliveries of fruit and vegetables on Wednesdays (because I don't drive).

    Emma, I have learned that experts think either that COVID-19 will come in waves, and the next wave will be in the Fall, much worse in the first wave that we are in now, or that it will be in diminishing 50% waves over the next 2 years. This all depends on how people cooperate with lockdowns, wearing masks, maintaining a 6' social distance, etc.

    Dee, in certain places, I notice people don't respect the 6 ' rule, but I try to avoid those places. Also, I try to shop in the early morning to avoid the crowds.

    Have discovered my local Aldi's supermarket have stepped up in having a dedicated employee scrubbing the shopping carts, giving them one at a time to a customer, and managing the line in front of the store to keep it moving. In the past, I used to buy $20.00 of items per visit, this last time, I have bought $110.00 of items, everything on my list. They are worth a second look, even though in the past they had limited choices.

    ShopRite has always been a good choice, too.

    Walmart and ShopRite are allowing customers to order groceries one week in advance. Instead of choosing a slot and then putting together your list, put together your list first, then choose a slot, as they only allow you an hour to put together a list. Check for slots hourly all day long, so that when one opens up, you can input your list, and secure your slot.

    Of course, I am living in upstate New York.

    By the Grace of God, I have 2 girlfriends who drive who take me shopping on a regular basis, as I don't drive.

    How I cope is that I stay in touch with my friends, including those at TGGuide, and I try to focus on the positive changes in our culture and society as a result of COVID-19. Also, I am taking this time to explore my creativity in my art, taking classes, webinars and exploring YouTube.

    We will get through this together!

    Your friend,

    Monica

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